Post # 1
I will keep this short: FI and I are getting married in a courthouse this summer- just us 2. No guests and no follow-up party, but we will be sending out annoucements to about 75+ friends/family. Knowning my side people who recieve the announcement will likely ask about sending a gift (although most I assume will send a card and possibly money.)
Should we register or a few things? I would not put this information in the announcement or tell anyone other than our mom’s in case someone asks. I don’t want to seem greedy, but I also don’t want/need some random gift my Aunt thinks is cute. If she is going to buy us something, I would prefer something useful.
And yes I am aware that these kind of questions go over as well as the “my 4ctw ring is too small” threads- but be polite.
Post # 3
We are eloping and having a reception back home a few months later, but we are not registering. It just doesn’t look good to register, even if someone asks about it. That will travel around and people will discuss it behind your back. Personally, I’d rather get a gift I won’t use than have people discussing our tastelessness.
Post # 4
@aliciapdx: My MIL highly encouraged us to register even though we eloped with no AHR. I really did not want to (it was actually a hard process!), but I did it anyway. She said that her sister (H’s aunt) would want to get us a gift, so might as well be something that we liked. In the end, that aunt just got us a BBB gift card istead of something from the registry.
People did ask us personally if we did register. At the time I did not have it set up, so I said no we did not. I only set it up like a couple weeks before the wedding after MIL’s prodding.
I have another aunt on my side who found the registry on her own. Not even my own family knew I had a registry so there was no one to spread it around by word of mouth. So people will look if they want to.
I put a few items like sheets, flannel sheets, patio set covers, dog bowl, bed blankets, shower curtain.
We did get several BBB gift cards. I ended up buying many very small things while in the store – nothing I would have registered for in person because I really didn’t know they existed or couldn’t find them online.
I say go for it. It is not as tasteless as the PP is saying. Anyone who wants to find out that info will know how to do it. Anyone that would seek out that info and then badmouth you after finding out you did have a registry – well then, they would be the tasteless people.
Post # 5
@kaciesunshine: Good point. my side of the family would “talk”
@sienna76: Thanks, I dont’ know if it’s worth the effort for 2 useful gifts. After I slept on it, I think those who get announcements will almost all send cards with either a check or a giftcard and to me that is useful, even if it’s to a store I wouldn’t normally shop at.
I did set up a Bloomindales registery on line to enter that contest this week, so I guess I could always add a few things there- as my side are frequent shoppers and gladly accept any gifts from anywhere that come out way.
Post # 6
Go for it! There are nice benefits to registering, like the discounts and the contests.
Post # 7
@AB Bride: Thanks, I just added like 20 things to the Bloomingdale’s one; some lower price point/practical items like kitchen stuff. Worst case it remains unpurchased-eh.