Post # 1
A family member of ours just bought a house with her FI. They are getting married later this year. They are throwing a housewarming party and wrote on the invite where they are registered. Is this a common thing to do? I was planning on getting them a gift anyway, so I don’t really mind. But our grandma got very upset and said she shouldn’t be expecting people to buy a housewarming gift, a shower gift, and a wedding gift.
They also registered for all pretty pricey items.. more expensive than I would think for a housewarming gift. I’ve never been to a house warming party, so I don’t really know. How much should I spend for the gift? There wasn’t much notice for the party so I have to get it tomorrow. Their mom mentioned to me that they don’t even have any dishes to eat on (which I think is odd since they have been house hunting since January), so I was going to try to get them something they can use right away.
Post # 3
I’ve never know of any friends who had registered for a housewarming party. I’m going to set up a registery, but really it will be for the discount on things we buy ourselves. We might also tell our parents about it, but only because they constantly phone and ask starting in the fall for a Christmas wish list.
Putting it right on the invitation is pretty rude!
Post # 4
I think that’s incredibly tacky. We didn’t have a house warming party for fear that people would think we were expecting gifts (well, that and laziness ). I can’t imagine asking people to buy gifts, expecially before a wedding!
Post # 5
I think it’s a wee bit tacky especially in light of the fact that they are getting married later in the year. I’ve been to several housewarming parties and no one has ever registered. We brought a bottle of wine and a small kitchen item like towels for a gift.
I’d just get something small and ignore the registry. In this case it sounds too much like a gift grab if they’re planning to have a wedding shower and registry.
Post # 6
I’ve never been invited to a housewarming where the couple had a registry expressly for that. My housewarming gifts have tended to be wine/cheese baskets, lawn/garden stuff, games – backgammon, a couple of bottles of booze to stock the bar, etc. Sounds like I wouldn’t be a very popular guest at this particular housewarming.
Post # 7
I usually do a housewarming gift in the 20 range. Wine if I don’t know them well, sometimes sillicone pot holders if they’re male and I know they haven’t lived alone before (this was the one registry item my husband was OBSESSED with), or a Home Depot gift card if I know they plan to fix up the place.
Post # 8
@pecanpie: That sounds very pushy. Couples arent even supposed to tell people where they are registered unless asked, yet alone to post it on a non-wedding related event invitation.
Any where from 15-35 is fine for a housewarming gift. You could go to christmas tree store and buy something nice for a very reasonable price.
Something they could use right away is stationary for all the thank you notes they better be sending out! lol
Post # 9
I would never do this, nor have I seen it done. Super gift-grabby!
Post # 10
I’ve never heard of this. I always bring something, but I wouldn’t expect anyone to give us anything if we bought a house.
Since you plan to give something, maybe you could show up with a nice bottle of wine. It won’t help them set up their household, but also won’t be obviously not from the registry, especially if the registry items are more than you had planned to spend.
Post # 11
I know someone who registered for their housewarming party. She had a range of items on there in all different price categories. I ended up bringing what I always do for housewarming gifts – wine, some cute kitchen things and a few Home magazines.
I personally would never register for this type of party.
Post # 12
Okay I’m glad I’m not alone in how I feel about this! She actually posted on facebook a reminder for their registry. And since they have been house hunting since the winter, I just would assume that they would have maybe started buying things for their house already. Before DH & I moved into our house we started buying kitchen things a long time in advance so we weren’t scrambling when we moved in. I’m thinking I’m just going to buy them some kitchen utensils totalling around $20 (ones from the registry) along with some pretty dishtowels.
Post # 13
@pecanpie: good idea.
Faux pas 1: Registering for a housewarming party is not common to begin with.
Faux pas 2: She can already expect gifts from the bridal shower and wedding so why more house related gifts?
Faux pas 3: On top of that, she included the registry info on the invitation
Faux pas 4: Posting it on social media as a reminder for everyone to see
There is so much No going on in this situation.
Post # 14
I haven’t ever heard of registering for a house warming party, especially when a bridal shower/wedding is right around the corner. It’s super gift grabby.
I usually bring a bottle of wine or liquor or candle and a card. Also they have no plates? Um WTF were they eating off of before they bought a house? I had no plates when I moved in to my 1st apt, guess what $25 at Walmart for 4 plates/bowls/mugs, are they fancy? No but they have lasted a long time now and I’ll get fancy ones when I can afford it.
Post # 15
This is so tacky. While I always bring a gift to someone in their new home (whether it’s an actual house party or not), I would be completely put off by being given registry information.
Housewarming gifts are standard, registering for them is not, ESPECIALLY when you’re wedding is around the corner and she’s undoubtedly registered for that.
Post # 16
I should clarify that by standard I meant, bringing a token of congratulations is good form when going to someones new house. Not necessarily that you have to provide them with a present that they can use in their home.
My go to is in the $50-$60 range, a nice bottle of wine/ champagne and a box of macarons from my favorite place. I have to share them with everyone who is not from my city because they’re amazing, always well received too, I bring them everywhere.. like a spokesperson. Haha.