Post # 1
Hi Bees! Well, FI and I are putting together our registry, and we just can’t decide whether to register for china. On the one hand, we would likely use it. We entertain a lot, he’s a chef, etc. On the other hand, it’s expensive, and my Mom already has two sets (one with 20 place settings!) that I will inherit someday. While I love her china, there is one particular pattern I just adore…
So, bees, are you/did you register for china? If your wedding has already passed, would you kindly let me know whether you received any of it as a gift? Another concern of ours is whether people would actually buy it because let’s face it, china is $$$!
Thanks for the thoughts, ladies! Happy Friday!
Post # 2
Also, just for fun, here’s the pattern I adore…
Post # 3
I didn’t register, because like you, my mother has a lovely set. We also have no where to store it at the moment. Our kitchen is so full we are using a closet in the laundry room to store not every day kitchen things. Also, right now, we are both thinkinging about kids. We are already afraid some of the nice things form our wedding (crystal decantor and glasses that we did not register for) are not going to be used in our home due to the potential of kids breaking them.
Post # 4
Well that pattern in particular is very very expensive – 150 a plate 140 a salad plate, yes? I love Bernardaud but how likely are you to actually get a full set? much less one to entertain? Unless your circles are high rollers, your wedding has 400 guests or your registry is just china I doubt you’ll get a critical mass of it.
In general yes I am a fan of registering for china and will do so- but a pattern that goes for 200 for a full place setting- not just one plate. My logic is that youre just never going to buy it for yourself. I’ll inherit sets too but “wedding china” is special and just so ingrained in my head as part of being a married lady and hosting. itll be nice to have my mothers set but I want my own. And yes it will be crowded in our apt now but one day we will have a big house and I’ll be thrilled to have the china for holiday meals and special occasions.
Post # 5
I agree with the pp. If you choose something too expensive, you are not likely to get any of it. People like to give at least one place setting, but to do that it has to be affordable. Not too many of our guests would have purchased a place setting that was well over $600.
We registered for china and recieved 12 place settings plus all our serving pieces.
We use china regularly so I wouldn’t want to put that kind of entertaining on the back burner till my Mom died.
Post # 6
MrsBuesleBee: You caught me! I can’t help myself – Bernardaud is just so gorgeous. Honestly, I’ve looked at some of the more affordable brands, and while I like them ok, I’m not “in love” with any of the styles. So, part of me wonders if I should just forgo registering for china. I would hate for people to spend hefty sums on something I’m not wild about.
Post # 7
We had formal china on our registry, but we found “everyday” china that would do double duty. So we’re only asking for one set. Formal sets are really nice to have, but we decided we’d rather have one full set than 2 partials.
Post # 8
Well better 6 place settings of a wedgewood, Lenox, or Kate spade than 1.5 settings of Bernardaud plus a gravy boat. Trust.
My parents hopefully will be around until I’m in my 50s- and there will need be holidays on china well before that.
Post # 9
Also I just spotted that pattern because I love it too!! I hear you. But ya know I can’t have the Reem Acra dress and I’m not bothering to even ask for the Bernadaud.
I like Bloomingdales selection best online- lots of gorgeous at lots of price points!
Post # 10
We registered for china and got it all, but it was more affordable at around $200 per setting. The best thing is that it’s also dishwasher safe. Ain’t nobody got time to wash 12 place settings after dinner!
Post # 11
TroubadourTango: I think if you are going to use it, register for it. It’s your registry, you can do what you want! Although you will inherit china SOMEDAY, that someday might not have happened yet if you want to host a fancy dinner party! And just because it’s on your registry doesn’t mean you’ll get the whole set–maybe you’ll get some and then have to pitch in the rest with the money you get!
Post # 12
TroubadourTango: We did register for some fine china and received some of it! We wanted a specific fine china set for eight places. Some relatives actually did buy one of the sets of 4, and we ended up buying the other half because we loved the set so much! I will say that it was by far the most expensive gift and I was very surprised that someone bought it.
Post # 13
TroubadourTango: If you will use it, just do it. Some places will give 20% off for whatever you did not receive off your registry.
Someday you will inherit your mother’s china, but it’s not tomorrow.
Post # 14
I registered for china, even though I already had my grandmother’s china (she never even used it but instead saved it for me, as my father bought it for her); will inherit my mother’s china; and already had two other sets of dishes.
My reasoning was very similar to that of MrsBuesleBee: I just always associated getting married with choosing my own china pattern. I also wanted a set of very elegant “plain” china that I could use for any holiday, since all of my other dishes have some type of pattern on them. I chose Lenox Federal Platinum, and I received 15 of 16 place settings and several other pieces. (I didn’t regiser for any of the platters or larger serving pieces, because they were several hundred dollars. Instead, I registered for Lenox metalware serving pieces. But that’s another story for another day, lol)
Post # 15
TroubadourTango: I wasn’t planning on registering for fine china. DH is completing his residency, so the likelihood that we will throw a dinner party that will call for fine china will be rare in the next five years. However, at my bridal shower, my mom’s friends all cornered me and kept asking why no china on the registry. So I figured if they wanted to purchase some, I’ll put it on there – I figured if I didn’t really want it or didn’t get a whole set, I could return it for store credit. Well, I got service for 12 of my full kate spade set, and I actually really love it!
If you’re thinking you might use it, register for it – can’t hurt and you never know what people will end up buying for you. At the very least, if you get some that you decide you don’t want, you can always return it for store credit!