Post # 1
I have a few questions.
- How much was the dinnerware set you registered for? (ie xx amount for xx place settings)
- Did anyone buy it for you off your registery?
- Do you think the price of your china should reflect the amount of guests coming to your wedding? (like not registering for a $700 set if your guest list is 50 people)
I recently have looked at some registries and have seen some outrageously overpriced place settings, and no one buying them off the registry. I am accepting the reality that if I want something off my registry, it has to be relatively reasonable. Most guests coming to our wedding I don’t think would go for over $100. We have a few large items (like a KitchenAid mixer) and mostly small items (anywhere from $10-$60).
The dinnerware I really like is $150 for four settings (registering for two). I think that’s not totally unreasonable, and have no problem buying it after the wedding if no one gets it. I’d imagine people going for the smaller accessories in the set first. But I just don’t want to put something so outrageous on my registry and get my hopes up. Thoughts?
(For an idea, our wedding will be about 70-90 people, mostly close friends and family with some coworkers)
Post # 2
It really depends on your guests and what they are comfortable with spending.
We invited 51 people and had 42 attend the wedding. Most of our high ticket items like our mixer ($200), cookware set ($300), and knife set with block ($150) were snatched up right away (and sent to us directly). We didn’t register for fine china, but we did register for a nice 4 place setting that totaled around $300. It was one of the first items sold. We also had a few small items, but most people skipped those and just gave us cash at the wedding.
Post # 3
I think it’s a waste of energy judging the appropriateness of the items other people include on their registry.
Many families ask couples to inlcude some higher end items because they plan to go in on a purchase as a group.
Couples also include items they never expect to get as gifts because many stores give them a registry completion discount after the wedding. They can use cash or check gifts to buy those items at a discount.
TheAnonyMouse: $150 for 4 place settings is actually quite inexpensive dinnerware. Although it might be abovethe price that one person wants to pay, as I said, people will go in together on some purchases.
Post # 4
TheAnonyMouse: While I love kate spade, I knew that in general, I would not want anyone I know to pay $70+/place setting! (esp if I’m asking for 12) Also, I know I don’t want to hand wash 12 sets of dishes at the holidays! I went practical and registered for semi cas dinnerware (from PB) for a lot less, and it’s DW safe!! IMO pracicality is better! It’s white, so I can dress it up for any occasion with napkins, chargers, place cards, table decor, etc… (PM Emma), vs many china settings that have a specific design and can be restrictive for decor. IMO, get what works for you and your lifestlyle!
Post # 5
TheAnonyMouse: To answer your questions
How much was the dinnerware set you registered for? (ie xx amount for xx place settings)
* We registered for Mikasa Antique White – it’s nice enough for formal stuff but casual enough that we’ll use it every time we have people over for dinner. An 8-place setting set cost $200 and the serving pieces cost $40-$60.
Did anyone buy it for you off your registery?
* We received the big set and over half of the serving pieces at our showers.
Do you think the price of your china should reflect the amount of guests coming to your wedding?(like not registering for a $700 set if your guest list is 50 people)
* I think that you should register for something that fits your lifestyle and budget and just be prepared to buy yourself any of the items that are not gifted to you.
Have I been a little judgy of others registries – yes. However mostly it isn’t about the size of their wedding vs. the size of their registry – it is usually the size of their registry vs. their current lifestyle. I side eye it a bit when people register for things that they’ll barely use – like the couple who never cooks registering for 20 All-Clad pots & pans, a stand mixer and Wustoff Knives.
Post # 6
I know that someone once told me to shoot for the moon with registries, and sometimes it works out well. Other times not.
Post # 7
shorebride105: I looked at the Emma set, and it’s really cute!
Post # 8
Mine is 150 per setting and I’m registering for 10 plus serving dishes/accessories. According to my mom thats reasonable for fine china and I got the thumbs up. TBd what we get!
Post # 9
How much was the dinnerware set you registered for? we skipped fancy china and just got everyday dishes. we registered for 12 place settings in all- half fiestaware (from bed bath & beyond) and half vida by espana (from macy’s). i believe both brands cost about the same- around $30.00 each.
Did anyone buy it for you off your registery? we got all of the vida place settings we asked for, and then some. they were buy one, get one free for a few months, so everyone jumped on that sale, lol. we received only one fiestaware set. the rest, we either bought ourselves or got them for christmas a few months after our wedding.
Do you think the price of your china should reflect the amount of guests coming to your wedding? not really. as another poster said, i would take your own budget into consideration, so you can be prepared to buy some items yourself if you don’t receive them from your guests.
Post # 10
TheAnonyMouse: It’s really best to figure out what you’d like/use the most and register for that regardless of price as long as you have a good range of prices overall. Ppl can decide on their own which items to buy you and what’s in their price range, but they all want to buy you the items that you’ll most want/use/need. I tried intially to not list too many expensive items, but that was silly- ppl know I am a beast in the kitchen and they really wanted to support that. I found that the items that were generally the best quality and/or cutest or ppl knew i’d use the most went much faster (regardless of price). Looking back, we should have just put what we most wanted/needed/would use instead of feeling self-conscious at the cost of certain items.
We didn’t register for dinnerware – we have casual dishes that I love and I couldn’t pick a style of china for some reason (loved tons of them but felt it might differ based on the style of the house we end up in ). I added silverware after the wedding and picked the expensive settings that I love. we bought them ourselves with store credits from duplicates and our completion discounts. I’m pretty sure that nobody who understands the quality of silverware (the weight and the feel and the style) judged us. And if someone was going to- we also have items ranging from $15-80.
Post # 11
We chose Fiesta for our every day dinnerware, which is quite inexpensive at around $30-35 per place setting. We also registered for fine china, though; for which we chose Monique Lhullier by Waterford, which is $130 per place setting. There is absolutely zero harm in registering for something expensive – have never understood the animosity toward this. The vast majority of items on our registry are below $50. No one is forced to buy us something they find too expensive. We chose what we like, and will probably just go and buy whatever we don’t receive as gifts after the wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I registered for Fiestaware for everyday and a nice but more modestly priced China set from Macy’s.
I got 8 place settings of the Fiestaware and some accessories, and NONE of the China.
I also received 8 place settings of a Corelle Set that matches my overall home decor.
I use the everyday stuff more and I think people just knew that my DH and I would use it more than nice China. I just figured getting China for our wedding was a classic gift. But oh well! I don’t think it had too much to do with # of guests.
My FSIL received over $2,000 in Kate Spade China, 12 place settings + all accessories for her bridal shower, along with a full set of everyday plain white dishes and a full set of Fiestaware. We have around the same # of guests but she comes from a more upperclass background than DH and I which I think has a lot more to do with it. No one I know could afford to buy us a $200 gravy boat and they would think I am crazy for asking. But for some people that’s not a big deal if they have money.
Post # 13
applecat: totally agree – not to mention there are lots of people who are going to want to give you something nice. my aunties and his grandmothers first question after the engagement was “have you picked a china pattern yet?”
I see the fine china being purchased by our parents’ friends and relatives who will likely all be aiming to spend 200+ . It’s just what they do. There are less expensive items on the registry and no everyday china or glassware/barware/crystal sets as we have all that so it’s just things we really want. And I want the standmixer, all clad, and vitamix- and I bet well get it with zero side eye (in real life anyway).
Post # 14
TheAnonyMouse: We registered for 2 types (every day and china) and got all of the pieces we requested. For our everyday dishes they were $27 for 4 settings (16 pieces) and we registered for 2. For the fancy china it was $80 per setting, but normally was on sale for $40, and we registered for 12 plus all of the other bells and whistles. Every piece was bought and it was one of the first things to get purchased.
Post # 15
We did not register for any “fancy” dinnerware. The reason? We really don’t have the room, and we wanted to keep our in line with what we already had (or, what I already had).
I had purchased a couple really nice sets from Corelle years back, white with a pattern around the edges. We registered for 12 more plain white salad and regular sized plates at Target. These plates will replace the heavy plates he has had forever. I was thinking long term and loved that Corelle was break resistant, as they’ll be great still for when we have kids in a couple years.
We did splurge and asked for a spendier set of flatware, 4 sets. I think each set of 20 was $50 – which I think is a lot. Someone has boughten all of those for us, so we are happy to be able to replace what we have with something new.