Post # 1
We are registering this Saturday and I’m a bit overwhelmed/stressed out about it. Any tips or advice? Anything to make it more simple? Should I bring anything? How did you prepare? How long did it take you?
Any help would be great!
Post # 3
@mu_t: Have fun. 🙂 When Fi and I registered, we made a day of it – we went to lunch first so we were well fed and there’d be no hangriness in the midst of the registration, and once we got there we really just took time going through it all and talking about needs and wants and scanning anything that fit into either category, lol. We tried to be practical and register for useful stuff in all pricing points.
Post # 4
@mrs_pudding_pop: thank you! maybe i’m making too big of a deal out of it. i need to relax, i think. the last thing i thought it would be is fun! but maybe it can be 🙂
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat! I’ve been putting it off because we’re having a destination wedding and we’re in the process of buying a house, so part of me feels like everything should be lower priced because of the destination, but our first house requires ALOT, so it’s tough. I went online and browsed different places and was like “OMG I NEED THIS”… FI is like “um I dont think a salad spinner is a necessity” (kidding. it wasn’t a salad spinner. it was a stand mixer. a girl needs one.) But alot of our family and friends arent going to get to come to the wedding, its a reallllyyy small guest list, so everyone suggested we register, but man that’s tough!
Post # 6
@beachchic105: we are in the EXACT same boat! Destination wedding next February… moved into our new house May 31! At first we were like “we aren’t even going to register, we don’t want gifts”… but everyone is insisting! I really wanted to register at Target because it just came to Canada and it seems like pretty reasonably priced stuff that is also practical and cute. Buuuuut they haven’t set up their Canadian registry yet. I’m just feeling next level guilty about it all. But also, I really want gifts for our house! haha.
Post # 7
@mu_t: Can you do an online registry via target? That’s what I’ve started.. mostly because something about running around our Target scanning stuff seemed weird. LOL I love their stuff though, obsessed, and the prices are unbeatable. I’m so glad someone else had that hang-up with whether or not to register. Part of me felt weird, then I realized we’re going to need so much stuff for this house, and if people are generous enough to gift it to us, then why not? I’m justifying here…. 🙂 Good luck!!
Post # 8
I really loved this article from Young House Love where they talked about what they loved and didn’t and then interviewed their married friends about it, too.
Really, really think about what you do and don’t need and what you will actually use and what you probably won’t. You can always delete stuff off of your registry, too!
Post # 9
We went in with a list organized by type/area of the house- it helped so much & kept us from falling into the “traps”- like engraved champagne glasses or special order serving dishes gilded in gold or something equally ridiculous. We just went in with the list & put a cap of an hour & a half at each place- Target & BBB. Although we were both annoyed & ready to jet after an hour at each.
I don’t know where you are planning on going to register but I had no idea Bed Bath & Beyond basically treats it as a sales pitch. They tried to get a salesman to walk around with us the whole time for suggestions & questions. Luckily it was her lunch break otherwise I would have left & just done it online. They will also push alot of stuff you may not need and be prepared for them to contact you later if you didn’t add said things. We only needed 4 place settings & 4-5 towels, but we got a call less than a week after the registry went up from BBB asking why we didn’t have 8 place settings & surely we’d need more towels than that. I really disliked that aspect of it. Target was great though, self-service & super easy. Just make sure to check your registry online when you get finished because sasonal items don’t always show up correctly or are limited stock.
Post # 10
I made a list before we went after going through our home. I checked things off as we added them. I wanted to make sure we had listed the things we needed. I let FI use the scanner, big mistake! HA He was scanning almost everything, whether we needed it or not. I did have to adjust the registry online afterwards. But we had fun. The people let us be on our own and were helpful whenever we had questions (we did Macy’s, love them!). Make sure you register for enough in a wide variety of price ranges, too. Lots of small things (under $25) and some bigger things (over $100). You can always adjust your registry anytime online or back in store if you need to.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@vorpalette: Yeah me too haha I was about to link to that article!
OP, register for what you really want. Don’t feel pressured into registering for random crap – and even if you do, you can always take it off your online registry when you get home. But seriously, think about timeless things – white dishes, fluffy white towels, whether you like to entertain, etc. – and maybe jot down a list of things you and your FI would like. Don’t register for anything just because they tell you you “need” it – only you know that! The people at Williams & Sonoma were really pushy and tried to talk DH and I into register for a fancy coffee maker (we don’t drink coffee very often to justify a $300 espresso machine), an immersion blender, an expensive blender, fine china – all things we wouldn’t use.
My philosophy is, if there’s stuff you or your FI want/need, register for it. Don’t worry about the number of things you register for, or whether it seems like a small list compared to your number of guests. If everything off your registry is purchased, your guests will probably give you cash or gift cards (which are sooo helpful once you move into your home!).
And maybe if it helps, here’s a blog post I wrote a few months after our wedding about what things we ended up using a lot, and our regrets: http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/02/20/wedding-registry-favorites-and-regrets/
Post # 12
wow, I didn’t realize that bed bath and beyond was like that. That is where we plan on registering. We went there just to look around and wrote down what we wanted or needed. So we are ready to just go take that list back and register. It is not much so they won’t be happy with us, ha!
Post # 13
@mu_t: Not married yet, so I don’t know how helpful this is, but I started our registry online, and then filled in the gaps in the store. I think it all depends on what kind of shopper you are- I usually shop online, so this worked for us. I like to be able to see all of my options in one place, and read reviews! When we did make it to the store, I highly recommend that you let your FI hold the scanner gun. My FI wasn’t interested at all until I handed him the gun, then he was the happiest person alive 🙂
One perk to registering online to start out with, is that you can avoid an annoying registry consultant following you around, since you already know what you do and don’t need.
Post # 14
@beachchic105: apparently i can’t do target at all in canada 🙁
@vorpalette: this article is amaaaaaazing! so helpful! thank you so much!!!
@BeckyS0: that is definitely helpful, i’ll keep it in mind. they better not pressure me or i’ll go bridezilla.
@GeorgiaBride5: great tips, thank you. I’m worried about that with my fiance as well. boys, eh?
@Mrs. Wallaby: thank you, thank you, thank you! great tips. This is helping me so much. I think i have a pretty good idea of my plan of attack now 🙂
Post # 15
I went twice (2 different stores). The first one I was a mess, I was hungry my feet hurt and since I’ve had my house for the past 7 years I really don’t need anything.
So my advice is to eat, wear comfortable shoes and really think about what you want. I peeked at my registry and a lot of the smaller items are purchased (I put these on so people wouldn’t feel pressured to buy expensive items BUT we really don’t need them.
The stores we registered at allows us to return pretty much everything whether it was purchased there or not.
Oh yeah..Have fun!
Post # 16
@meke: We avoided all of that by saying, “We registered online and just want to fill in some gaps,” and politely refusing the assistance of the “registry consultant.”