- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
We are newly engaged, but already being bothered by relatives about registering. In our circle a lot of people bring boxed gifts to weddings, and a registry would be appreciated.
Because most of our family is from out of town, we are making 3 trips in april and may to visit the two sides of his family and my family. All three sides of the family have expressed interest in throwing me a shower/engagement party combination when we come, since we likely won’t be back to visit until right before the wedding. FI also told me to expect his coworkers/friends to throw us a shower, since they have done it for everyone else in the office.
We are a couple months out, but we are already being asked for registry info. Our wedding is fairly small with a guest list of 50. Originally I thought we wouldn’t have showers and could get away with a very small registry because there were probably only about 20-25 couples coming. However, all of the events being hosted by FIs family also include people not invited to the wedding (FIs parents have decided that they would like to include some of their friends and more distant family members, however everyone agrees it would be ridiculous to invite them to a wedding 16 hours away, since most of the family that wasn’t invited weren’t because they are very elderly and no longer travel). Since I am not hosting these events I don’t have a say about who is invited. My FIs co-workers throw each other showers with no expectation of invitiation to the wedding as a tradition. It has increased the number of people that might want to buy a gift considerably though.
FI and I don’t live together, but each have a small apartment. I recently let my apartment go, since I travel for work and am staying with family until after the wedding. Between the two of us we have a nice set of knives, most of our pots and pans are nice, and we have a lot of the other kitchen odds and ends, as well as towels, ect.
Beyond a few basic kitchen and linen items, I am kinda at a loss for what register for. FI is more interested in kitchen appliances than I am, but since our 5-year plan includes several moves and sticking it out as renters, I really don’t think it is worthwhile to cart a deep fryer and electric griddle around for just the two of us.
We could use some small furniture items (bookshelves, nightstands, console and end tables) but I am not sure those are something that are approrpiate or easy to put on a registry– plus they would have to be items that were delivered to us or got giftcards for.
I’ve also though about a honeymoon registry, but we aren’t taking a cruise or going to a resort, which makes it harder to organize. This is less traditional, as well.
Are there any other things that are “box gifts” that are now considered ok to register for?