(Closed) Registering very early, confused about what is acceptable

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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2193 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You are a whiles out so I would register for the things that you know will not be discontinued or go out with the season i.e.  electrics, china, crystal

Anything goes as far as registries these days.  Check out amazon as you can put multiple stores on there.  We registered for decor, furniture, art along with the “regular” stuff.  The only thing I would not put on there is gift cards(they give you the option but I feel like it looks money grabby) and cash.  GL!

Post # 4
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9173 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I use myregistry.com – you can add anything from any Internet store site to it. So you can add art, things for hobbies we’ve got some outdoor gear on ours), etc. Some advice I’ve heard is to get some really nice high thread-count bedding – things like that which you don’t need and would never buy yourself (or at least I wouldn’t), but are super nice to have. A nice full set of dishes and silverware is also nice to have. Rugs, lamps, etc…

Post # 5
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2660 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can definitely register for those pieces of furniture.  It’s ok that they are delievered to you.  Tools, luggage, board games, and camping gear (or stuff for any shared hobby) are other good things to register for.

However, I STRONGLY against inviting people to a shower who are not invited to the wedding.  9 times out of 10 it comes off as very rude and gift-grabby.  The exceptions to this rule are work/church/club showers (so you’re good with the work shower).  But I don’t think the family shower is a good idea.  Is it a common thing to do in your FI’s family?  I know you said you don’t have any control over the guest list, but you can decline the shower saying that you don’t feel comfortable having people at the shower who are not invited to the wedding.  If you are worried about offending your FIL’s by declining the shower, you could ask to do a bridal tea where no gifts (and thus less rude, though it’s still a bit rude to invite people to a pre-wedding party and not the wedding).

 

 

Post # 6
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930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Register for supplies for hobbies you have together?  After our really small kitchen/home registry, we set up a camping registry at REI.  We love camping and it is a great activity to do together, but the supplies we have our really basic and upgrades and extras are expensive, so we registered for some better camping supplies.  (And so I’m not having to always borrow stuff!!)

Otherwise perhaps doing an online combo registry, a PP mentioned Amazon and that might be a great option for you guys.  

Good luck!

Post # 7
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

In my experience, groups usually like to buy things like furniture, so I would go ahead and put them on your registry.  Where I work, people usually chip in a $5-20 towards things like high chairs for babies, a single, higher priced item.

What about registering for a wine of the month club, or various nice bottles of liquor?  Just a suggestion.  You can also get cheese of the month, or a housekeeping service. They’re larger gifts that groups can pitch in on.

I also wouldn’t worry too much about the etiquette around having the shower thrown for you that includes people who won’t be attending, as long as that’s accepted in that group of folks.

Post # 8
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2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My theory on gifts is this: People give what they want to give. I get rather annoyed when I read things about warning people not to look “grabby”. Registries are not demands. They are guides. I’ve never once looked at a registry and said, “How rude”. If its out of my price range I move to things that are…who am I to know whether someone else can afford ___ or not?

Register for what you like… And you don’t have to register. If someone asks tell them it hasn’t been decided and you aren’t sure it will. A gf didn’t register and they ended up quite ok. 

I know you plan to be renters and don’t want to lug all sorts of things around but just a few things…like 5-10 items should be ok for those inquiring. How about a really nice vase or item that could be an heirloom? Just something beautiful to have? 

I love the idea of wine registry…very cute idea. Honeymoon registeries are great too. We aren’t doing one but I do find they are useful for some. I love seeing board games, cameras and iPods on registeries…it shows a playful side. 

Have fun 🙂

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