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Help!?

I wanted to get some opinions on this issue...

 I know most ettiquette boards say you can only include your registries in the bridal shower invitations and anywhere else is a big no-no.  Though i did find one that said times are a changing and that it was an acceptable thing to do. In my culture (i'm asian) guests automatically give monetary gifts; it's like sending the RSVP card in American culture...it's something that's normally done without a second thought (though asian guests are the WORST at replying to RSVP's).

The registry was created mostly for his side and for our friends. We don't live together and he only has the most basic things so we actually did register for a toaster and measuring cups. =P  With the language barrier, different groups/sets of friends, and long distances friends/family, getting the 'word of mouth' about where we are registered doesn't seem realistic.

After discussing with the FI, I refused to insert those little store registry memo's into our invitations or have it ON the invitations but I did agree we would somehow include it with our invitations or our STD's.

 So i was going to create a mini-newsletter to be included with our STD. This would have our website, who's in the wedding party, the different events going on, airports, hotels, places to go in the city and lastly where we are registered at.

I guess my reasoning is that I'm giving my guests all these suggestions about the airports and hotels to help make their trip easier if they plan to attend the wedding but i'm not EXPECTING or INSISTING that they HAVE to come (though i would really be happy if they all could). So take that and put it in the context of registries...IF our guests decide they would like to get us a gift, then they'll have an idea of where to start BUT it doesn't mean I'm expecting/insisting they absolutely must buy from the registry. Gift or no gift or just a card with a personal message/advice would be great, we just want our guests to enjoy themselves and have a great time.

What do you all think? Is this a potential solution?

Thanks for any advice and suggestions. =)

We had a similar issue with where to put registry information. Even though times are changing, I knew I did not want to see it in the invitation.

Ultimately, we decided to steer everyone to our website and tout it as the "go to place for information." On our home page, we explain where people can find the registry info. We plan to include our URL with all the wedding correspondence that goes out (STDs, invites, showers, etc) because it also has useful travel and event information.

I think if you include anything with the STD, I'd include some info about your wedding website. There you can explain that you arent expecting them to bring stuff, but if they want to you'd like something off your registry or a card, etc.

I wouldnt worry about it too much.

We put our registry information on our website's F.A.Q. page.  The page also has info about where we'll be living after the wedding so that people know that we aren't moving into either of our current apartments (but without the actual address, since it is the internet).  And it tells them where we met, and explains  the groom's first name, since my family keeps asking how he got such a unique name. (Ans.: his parents met at divinity school).  These tidbits were partially added because we wanted the F.A.Q. to have something more than only registry information, but also for fun.  

Putting the registry information in the F.A.Q. section leaves it a little hidden on the website, but we didn't feel comfortable putting a link on the front page saying "info about gifts we want here".  Also, our website is small: the menu bar links to pages titled Welcome, Ceremony, Hotel, To, Around, Fun, and F.A.Q.  So, guests who are inclined to look for registry info on the website will find the link, so long as they have sufficient curiosity to click on the FAQ section.  The non-internet savvy weren't going to get there anyway. :-)