Post # 1
FI and I made our registries on our two days off this week. It is overwhelming! Our first store was Bed Bath and Beyond. From my own personal experience I know their return policy is really great and they have a little bit of everything we would need. We had our own personal consultant who walked us through everything we could possibly need. She was great. She gave us suggestions on certain things and gave us reasons why we might need something even if we didn’t think we would need it. However, we ended up being there for THREE HOURS! It was insane! I mean, we made a really well rounded registry, which is great, but still! By the end we were starving because of course we went around lunch time, lol. Afterwards, we went online to double check our registry and add some things from their website we didn’t think of while we were in the store. Also, FI loves the fact that we can see when things are purchased from our registry, but I’d rather be surprised! I told him he’s more than welcome to check it, but I don’t want to know! Anyone else have overwhelming experiences when it came to the registry?
Post # 3
We did our ours online and it is overwhelming but I liked doing it from the comfort of our home.
Post # 4
@hikerchick: We tried doing it online, but ultimately I decided I’m the type of person who needs to see things in person! Certain things like flatware I wanted to be able to hold and feel how heavy they were, etc. I’m glad we did the bulk of it in person and now if we think of anything additional we can add it online, as well!
Post # 5
We started ours online and then went into the store to add some things/check stuff out. We didn’t do a very big one, but yeah – it was interesting trying to “shop” for all that stuff at once! It felt like a big decision.
I’m glad we started ours early (about 7 months out from the wedding). It has given me plenty of time to think about what we had on there, add/remove/tweak things.
I’m a peeker though! The first day our invitations hit guests, someone purchased something off the registry – I was so surprised!
Post # 6
@NAvery: FI told me he’ll try to NOT tell me, but I know he’s going to slip. He’s really excited about it, lol! We don’t have our own place yet. . . we’ll be moving out in the next couple of months before the wedding, so shopping for a place that doesn’t exist yet seemed SO HARD!
Post # 7
Yeah, we spent hours in BB&B too.. We also had one for Macy’s, but we weren’t there for hours. We ended up having about 22 pages worth of things from BB&B!
Yeah, I constantly checked the registry to see what was bought.
Post # 8
we did what @NAvery did: start online and then visit stores to see things in person.
It was a good thing, too, because it turned out I just didn’t like the feel of the towels we had added online, and the silverware that we had settled on based on look had a very different weight/balance than we expected.
Did anyone else just drastically change the number/type of things on their registry in the initial weeks?
I keep thinking we should register for less, because we don’t need very much stuff, but then I add a bunch after listening to people who recommended that we add things we’d like but don’t technically need, because some people prefer to be able to give physical gifts instead of money.
And a couple times I’ve had a minor freakout and pared down the registry to bare-bones, like after I stumbled onto a really judgemental message board (on another site, not here!!) where people said it was unbelievably tacky and insulting to register for stuff if you’re having a tiny, private ceremony but a big reception.
I assume that in a few weeks I will get more used to the idea of telling people what to buy me (I know the list is meant to be a helpful resource for them, and I agree, but it still feels weird at this point), and be able to leave the registry alone for a while. …hopefully?
Post # 9
We had a blast creating our wedding registry!! That was totally like one of the best things about wedding planning.
I think we regisered at Target and Macy’s. Definitely preferred the experience at Target over Macy’s though. I wasn’t a fan of the saleswoman hovering around at Macy’s and trying to convince me to register for $300/place Noritake.
I think the only troublesome thing about the registry for me was some dolt who was upset (and did call me) when I didn’t register at Pottery Barn. Had someone else complain I didn’t register at Crate & Barrel…
I mean…at the end of the day, if you register at too many places, you’re going to end up with duplicate items. Target and Macy’s covered it nicely for us.
Post # 10
@JaneyDcat: At first we were having fun. . . and then it felt overwhelming. I think the fact that we went to the store around lunch time and hadn’t eaten had a lot to do with it. The longer we were there, the more hungry we got. lol. . . FI was getting into it at some points though adding things behind my back haha. And he was the one who wasn’t looking forward to it. Just a long day, is all!
Post # 11
I went in with a list of everything we wanted plus I go to BBB all the time so I knew what I wanted. They also told us to plan on a couple hours and they gave us a consultant.. While she gave us some ideas of things I didn’t think of, I think we woul d have been done a whole heck of a lot faster had we just been left on our own. So that made it feel overwheleming for me.
Post # 12
@mkelove: Fortunately for us, our consultant had to go on break while we were browsing. We definitely moved faster without her around, but I did appreciate her suggestions.
Post # 13
I’m totally overwhelmed about WHAT to put on it. We aren’t doing china because I already collect some and I’m maybe asking for 2-3 pieces from that. We have nice cookware and knives. I have some nice baking sheets. We have casserole dishes but I guess they could be upgraded because they don’t match and are old. That’s where the guilt comes in…I worry people will think I’m regestering for things that are too nice. 🙁 We also have our everyday stuff because we needed it badly and we found one that we both love at a really good price.
My mom didn’t help when she made a HUGE deal about registering for a Kitchen Aid stand mixer. It really hurt my feelings. Now I worry putting that on there, even though I’ve wanted one since I was a kid.
We need towels but I have no idea what kind to get other than white because they can be bleached. But like what will last a long time…I don’t know.
We went to check out BBB and I found it entirely overwhelming. It’s too crowded. If we go that route, I’ll stick to online.
I find the check lists really off the wall and very overwhelming. I also wonder if I’m not registering for enough? Like how much is too much? How little is too little? Who knew this would be stressful?! 🙂
Post # 14
It was very overwhleming to me. I thought having the person follow us around at BB&B made it worse! I don’t know why but it did. I enjoyed registering at Target more where it was just fiance and I doing it. I still feel like we forgot to add a few things!
Post # 15
@Coral99: I can totally relate. I’ve spent so much time worrying if I’ve asked for too many expensive things, if I registered for too much, if I didn’t register for enough, if I registered for the right things, etc. It really helped me to send my registry to my mom, sister, and FSIL, as well as having some people on the Bee look over it as well. I got some really good suggestions from them.
Post # 16
@cmbr: Where did you register? Did you register for china?
I keep reading to register for things you normally wouldn’t ask for or things that could become keepsakes. I never thought about it, as in it being a big deal, because it’s a wedding but when I added a vase for $100 I thought…wait…is this insane? Don’t get me wrong…I would totally use it. I love flowers and buy them frequently.
I think that’s the most expensive thing I’ve considered other than the mixer.