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@gaucho25: I haven't registered yet, so I don't have good advice.
Do you not want the guests to know the city? From what I can remember, it just says the city on most registries - not the actual location.
Also, I wonder if there is an option to only have the month of the wedding, not the actual day.
I would hesitate putting a password on it, because you never know who might want to get you a gift. I completely understand trying to keep the info private, but if someone wants to find out your date, I'm sure they have ways to (as unfortunate as that sounds).
Thanks for the suggestion. The location we are getting married in is quite small and therefore, pretty easy to guess where we are getting married.
The idea of my fiance's father and his side fo the family coming to the weddding is pretty stress inducing for him given that he does not have a good relationship with him and we are trying out best to avoid this for him and especially for his mother not to have a scene (yes she is that dramatic and will make it all about her). It is unfortunate, but it is the situation. I just hope that it doesn't take away from the fun we are trying to have for our wedding. If we lose out on people being able to get us gifts, that is the way it is.
In any case, I am just getting bummed from wanting to register at Amazon, Bed, Bath, and Beyond, Target etc and having unhelpful customer service departments and having to put in the date and location of the wedding. Any suggestions?
Or do you think it is tacky just to put on our registry that we would like gift certificates (we might actually prefer this too as we would like to perhaps go to some unique stores in our city)
Thanks bees!
I'm pretty sure that you'll have to put the date. What I would do is not have your registry published online (Bbb gives this option). That way if someone wants to find out more they actually have to go into the store.
I dont think you have to put your exact location on a registry.. just put the state! If you really want to, you could password protect your wedding website and put the registry info on there
I'd say get a wedding website which has a password and then refer your guests there for the registry info.
Thanks Bees! We definitely don't want our registry coming up on a search engine. We know his family has been trying to figure out the date/location because some of his friends and old mentors actually called us to say that my fiance's family stopped by inquiring about invitations (i.e. hoping they would slip and give out the date/locale) Yikes!
As we are getting married out of state in a location special to my fiance, the city's location within the state would be a pretty good guess for my fiance's family.
eagle do you know more about the B and B option? does it show up on search engines?
also does anyone know anything more about myregistry or one of those site aggregration websites?
Thanks bees!
@gaucho25: Gwen you register in store, BBB will make you sign a paper/ check a yes or no box, giving them permission to publish the registry online. Just say no.
Also I would recommend if you have a wedding website that you should get a password protection site. That way they won be able to get on too.
Also maybe hire a DOC that could deal with uninvited guests on the day of the wedding. Then you won't have to keep worrying about this!
@gaucho25: when you register in store, BBB will make you sign a paper/ check a yes or no box, giving them permission to publish the registry online. Just say no.
Also I would recommend if you have a wedding website that you should get a password protection site. That way they wont be able to get on there.
Also maybe hire a DOC that could deal with uninvited guests on the day of the wedding. Then you won't have to keep worrying about this!
You could also list your hometown or your current location instead of the wedding location.
As for the date, I think it's usually required because of the registry completetion benefits, they tend to expire so many months or a year after the wedding. You could always lie about the date and put it past your wedding date. Especially if you don't have common names, sometimes if your names are common it does help guests narrow down the list that pops up.
Every store has their own way of publishing the registry, check out the stores you're interested in and ask.
Finally, there's what celebreties do sometimes - use fake names. This would make it a little more difficult for your guests though.
Thanks eagle for explaining how BBB works.
We have a password protected website but just don't want out registries to be searchable on the Internet. And yes we will have a DOC planner too and thanks for reminding me we should make it a point to tell her about the situation. I would love to stop worrying about this because it is making my fiance all jumpy esp with the thought of his mother causing a scene with these uninvited guests.
Excited to check out BBB!
My registry is at myregistry.com and it is password protected. I'm not sure if it has the date though. I have not been on there too much yet. I'll check tonight and let you know. Also, guests and give money on the site too through paypal I think.
Mine is on BBB and I think it has my date and then the state I live in, not the city, which would provide a bit more anonymity, not sure if this helps though!
@gaucho25: BBB is really great and they pretty much carry everything that Macy's has... but cheaper. Our china at BBB is like 40 dollars cheaper than it is at other stores.
And definitely tell your DOC about the whole situation. All you'll need to do is provide her with an explicit guest list - just make one up in excel. She'll take care of any crashers. And also, it would be easier to keep out uninviteds if you have assigned seating. That way they just won't have a seat... makes it more embarrassing for them, and easier to deal with for your DOC.
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Hi Wedding Bees
My fiance has a delicate family situation and some of his family members are not invited under his wishes to not have these members attend and to avoid a big scene. However, we know that some of his family are seeking out the date and location of the wedding.
At the same time, many people are asking about our registries. Does anyone know of registries that have password protection for our guests or do not require the date or location of the wedding? I don't want to confuse our actual guests, but we are trying to keep the date and location private from some of his relatives.
Any ideas on registries with password protection? We could forego the registry thing or ask for gift cards, but it a shame to have this fun part left out of our wedding experience. I know my fiance was looking forward to this part alot and is bummed out by the family situation.
Thanks weddingbees!