Post # 1
Since FH and I are strapped for money, it would be nice for us to receive monetary gifts instead of registry gifts at the wedding. We aren’t trying to be greedy or anything. Just, we know that people give gifts and we would rather them “waste” money on expensive registry items when it could be used by us to find an equally good product that is at a store where you can’t register. PLUS we would like to save for a house.
I spoke about this with my mom, sister, and best friend. They think that people will buy random gifts if we don’t register!!! Do you agree? Has any one else experienced this/heard this?
Also. From all the weddings/showers I’ve been to, it seems that EVERYONE brings gifts to the shower, and no one brings “money gifts”. Is it okay to register for the shower and not the wedding? Will this confuse people? Is there a way of somehow showing that the registry is for the shower only? BAHHH…this wedding business is too much!!!
Post # 3
I think if people want to give you money, they will give you money. Otherwise, they will give you a gift. If you don’t have a registry, they will just pick something they like–you may or may not like it. I would register just in case. Maybe have someone discreetly spread the word that you would prefer money gifts?
Post # 4
People will get you what they want to get you, and most people will want to get you housewares. People CAN spread the word that you want money, but I wouldn’t expect it to really do any good. We had multiple people spreading the word that what we really wanted was gift cards to this furniture store (where we had a gift card registry) to buy new dining chairs since ours are literally breaking, but so far out of over 50 gifts we have gotten two, one which was from my mom.
however also consider that Bed Bath and Beyond allows returns for actual money (a check) rather than store credit.
Post # 5
If you have a shower, you will need to register for physical gifts or have a themed shower (stock the bar, recipe, etc.). The whoe point of a shower is to “shower” the bride with physical gifts and it’s rude to register for cash and/or have a money shower.
If you’d prefer cash as a gift, it’s best to spread it via word of mouth. When people ask where you are registered, say you have a small registry at X but are saving for Y.
I would definitely create a small registry though. Surely you have a few things or upgrades you need. There are some people that really dislike giving cash and will get you a physical gift anyway so best to have some sort of registry for those people. Otherwise you will end up with random stuff that you cannot return. I would probably keep it for both the wedding and the shower.
Post # 6
This topic comes up alot on the Bee…search a few threads to see some ideas. We did a small registry at a store, and did a honeymoon registry. I agree that people will get you what they want, so having options is a good thing!
Word of mouth is fine for wanting money, and if I saw a small registry I’d probably catch on that the couple wanted money! 🙂