Registry – Almost nothing purchased

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

In my circle most people give cash, so maybe that’s what your guests are doing for the wedding itself. As for shower gifts you didn’t ask for, smile, say thank you, and return away!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I always give off the registry.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

At showers, I always give off the registry.  At weddings, I almost always write a check.

I think it’s very strange that no one really bought off your registry.  Is there a chance that the registry information wasn’t passed around so people just didn’t know?  I’d never buy something completely random for a shower — if I didn’t know where they registered or what they truly wanted, I’d get them a gift card to Bed Bath and Beyond or a generic home store like that…

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

gymbunny04:  I am a huge fan of buying off the registry….. to me it is foolproof……

As for your situation……. are you sure that your guests were aware of the registry (was the information on the invite, on a wedding website, or an insert in the invitation)

Any chance that your relatives can snoop around and try to find out for you where a lot of the gifts were purchased????? Hopefully you can return or get a store credit……

good luck……..

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I’m sorry, but I can’t sympathize with anyone griping about receiving gifts they didn’t want. It just seems incredibly ungrateful to me. I never got a wedding shower and we got mostly cash as wedding gifts. We didn’t even have a registry, because like you we already own a home and had most stuff we need. Dish towels don’t take up a lot of space. Store them in a closet and use them for rags if you’re really bothered that they don’t match anything. As for DH and I, we usually get a gift off the registry for the wedding shower but give cash as a wedding gift.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Was the registry included on the invite?  My first guess would be that not everybody knew about the registry, which may explain why your mom and bm’s used it and the rest didn’t.  I always shop from the registry for showers, so if I had known there was one as a guest, I would have gone straight to it for gifts.  I think many people would do the same.

There’s not a ton you can do other than thank everyone for their gifts, and return anything which doesn’t work for your house.  For wedding gifts, keep the registry up and make sure that you mention it on your wedding website when the invites go out.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The OP didn’t seem u ngrateful to me.  I think it is normal to hope for things off your registry, and I agree with her about mismatch towels…they are sort of useless.  Anyway, the tone of the post seemed plenty respectful!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

for my shower i only got about 3 gifts from my registry. alot of the other girls bought me lengerie. Our wedding is in a few days and we have maybe 5 more gifts from the registry purchased but i think most of my family gives checks at the wedding.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Where do you live? I think this can be a cultural thing. We live in a fairly small town in the intermountain western US, and we got mostly physical gifts for our wedding. Of those, I’d say half were off-registry. People like to be creative and get you something THEY think you’d like, rather than what you’ve clearly indicated you’d like… luckily most of our gifts were really pretty cool. And the rest got donated, with a nice note sent to the gifter who was none the wiser. Anyway, that’s my $0.02.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

as long as you know where the unneeded items were purchased, most stores are willing to give you store credit so that is an option. I find most people buy off the registry but those I am closest to often deviate as they know me well enough to purchase off the registry. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think some people, especially younger people who don’t have a lot of wedding/shower experience just don’t get it. I’m going to a shower next week and my younger friend showed me a picture she bought the bride. It’s def not everyone’s taste and was NOT on the registry. She told me that everything was picked over off her registry, not realizing there was more than one store, so she got that. I feel bad because she spent like $70 on something that I’m not sure the bride will love, and it’s a custom non refundable/returnable peice. when I suggested a gift card instead, she was just like oh well if she doesn’t like it no big deal. She was just happy she did her shopping and it was over with. I think some people are just like that, they don’t wanna put in the effort so grab whatever they think they would like and not think about it further. See what you can get receipts for, return what you can, donate or re-gift the rest. It’s disappointing but you didn’t pay for the items they did so it’s not “hurting” you in anyway. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

gymbunny04:  I generally shop off the registry, but if I don’t, I definitely give a gift card for one of the stores the couple registered with. Just this past weekend a friend had a shower and they got some things off of their registry (they had four different registries with lots of similar items), and I think people knew they weren’t moving out until next year (nearly a year after the marriage), so they received lots of gift cards and only a few things off of their registry. I definitely think registries are important and generally they are used to stop people from going out on their own and purchasing you things they “think” you will like. 

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