Registry before Save the Dates?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I didn’t really think about it, but our registry was completed by the time we sent out our save the dates. We knew most people would take a peek at it right away (we could see how many views) and we wanted as much information as possible already there. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think yes, it should be worked on and almost complete. 

Ours is still a work in progress, but we had them setup pre-save the date. We did ours very soon after getting engaged, as we had a lot of family members who wanted to send an engagement gift. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I haven’t sent out save the dates yet, but I probably won’t register until next spring. I don’t see any reason to register now when we arent getting married for another year (august ’15). If you register now, half of the stuff you register for could be discontinued or out of stock by the time it actually comes for people to purchase. If anything I would say something on your website like “We will be registering at X and Y. Registeries coming soon!” so people know where to look when the time comes. I feel like it will create more headache to do it now. There is no need for people to just peek when they don’t need the registry until the shower

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  littleanchor.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I didn’t think about it, but our registries are basically done, and our STDs won’t be going out for another 3-4 weeks. 

Basically, FI’s grandmother asked me about registries awhile ago. Her friends (many of whom aren’t even invited to the wedding) had asked her because they wanted to get us something. While I don’t know how I feel about accepting gifts from virtual strangers, she kept asking me, so we got on the registry within the past month.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Hmm, is the website expected?  Here’s my concern – I like how my fiance and I both have a clean Google search of our names, for professional reasons.  I really woun’t want just anyone to happen upon my website and registry.

I was thinking of no website and answering the registry question, if and only if asked.  I assume that the bridal shower will be the occassion when people purchase off the registry and hence the information will be on the invitation then, but maybe I’m wrong.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Our was pretty much done, I think after Save the Dates we probably added/removed a few items as time went on but we at least had something since our Save the Dates linked to our website. We got a gift right away too. DH’s cousin sent us a gift immediately along with a note letting us know she wouldn’t be able to attend. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No. Usually the STDs are sent out 8-12 months before and there’s really no reason to do a registry that early. We did ours about 5 months before the wedding and tons of stuff still got discontinued. Update the website when you send out shower or wedding invites. People usually don’t buy anything that far in advance when receiving a STD. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ours was pretty much done but we made a lot of adjustments after sending out STDs (9 mos in advance). Keep in mind that stores change their inventory and discontinue items frequently – even the more “stable” stores like Pottery Barn. I was really glad we checked in closer to the date bc some items we had registered for months prior that were a part of a set were no longer available, which required updating the rest of the items in the set.

Long story short, I don’t think it’s a necessity, and registering early means you have to closely monitor your lista for longer, but it is nice to get that task crossed off your list!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Both of my daughter’s had a completed website, including room blocks at hotels, before their save-the-dates were sent out – 10 months before their weddings. The website address was on the STD. (They can be password protected, for privacy, but you have to inlclude that, too). Neither of them set-up registries until their bridal shower invitations were mailed, since they knew their needs and preferences would change, over a 6 month period. (Around here, most shower gifts are physical and most wedding gifts are in an envelope). 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our registries are pretty close to done and we aren’t sending save the dates until November! We wanted everything to be set before they went out since the registry info is on the wedding website, and the wedding website URL is on the STD. (Also I just like getting things done early!).

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We had our website, hotel blocks and registries done before we mailed save the dates – our Save the Dates went out about 6 1/2 months before the wedding date.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We also had out hotel blocks and registry info on our website when we sent STDs. However, my registry has changed A LOT, so if you don’t have time to devote to the registry, just put a couple of things. I also deleted one of my registries since sending out STDs.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

jamb:  only 2 of the 4 weddings I had this summer had a wedding website, so I don’t think it is necessary if you include all of the pertinent info in the invitation. However, if someone were to google your name and your FI’s they would come up with the registry anyway so it’s not that incognito.

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