Post # 1
Quick question: I am having a wedding this April with 210 guests. We are having a bridal shower, but not everyone will be in attendance and all of the guests are female. In addition many of friends are male and I have 14 male cousins. I am wondering if it is okay to include a card mentioning where we are registered when I send out the formal invitation for our wedding?I am obviously including a card with our registries on it in the shower invitation, but I want to include a card letting everyone know where we are registered in the formal invitation as well. Would this be considered poor etiquette?
Post # 3
Yes, it would. If people want to give you a gift they can ask where you are registered or look it up online themselves.
Post # 4
I think technically etiquette says no, don’t do it, but I know I always appreciate it when the registry info comes with the invitation so I don’t have to track it down on my own.
Post # 5
@EMCasey: Every invitation I have ever received had registry information included in it. I didn’t think twice about it. I would find it more annoying to have to track the information down than have it provided for me.
Post # 6
That’s in poor taste in my opinion. It’s easy enough to find out via google or they can simply ask. I’ve never been to a wedding/shower and had trouble finding out where the couple was registered.
Post # 7
@EMCasey: yupp. big no no
Post # 8
Per etiquette, it shouldn’t be included ON the invite itself, I believe. I’m not sure how that translates to little cards put in WITH the invite.
We’ve been sent invites with and without registry info, and I never thought a thing about it until I joined the Bee.
Do what makes sense for you guys.
Post # 9
@EMCasey: Etiquette wise it is a big no no.
There are some brides that do it and don’t care and to each their own. Personally when I recieve an invitation with the registry card inside it leaves a bad taste in my mouth so to speak, that is what word of mouth and the wedding website is for.
Post # 10
You may offer a link to your wedding website though. I am betting if you (or guests) google your name or your FI’s, they will find your registry
Post # 11
@EMCasey: Are you a stickler for etiquette or would you rather make it easy for your guests? As a guest, I would rather have it included as a separate insert or part of a wedding website that’s included in the invitation suite. I don’t want to ask around or email people to try to figure it out. That’s just inconvenient. I don’t see that in poor taste and am not offended if you do that. I did include an insert in our invitation and no one has declared poor etiquette on me (we don’t have a website). It’s so old fashioned. Don’t worry about what other people think, it’s your wedding!
Post # 12
You are in my area. PLEASE do not do this.
Post # 13
Also – for every person who says it’s more convenient for them there’s one person who will be horribly offended. Promise. *I’ll be offended*
Post # 14
it is considered bad etiquette, but it’s a “rule” that many people (including me) break. we invited over 300 people to our wedding, so it was going to be too hard to just let our registry info pass thru word of mouth. we included cards with our website printed on them so guests could access our registry information and other details. for our guests who can’t/don’t use the internet (and we had quite a few) we included the regsitry cards that the stores gave us.
i’ve never received a wedding invitation that didn’t include regsitry info, so i don’t think badly of anyone who chooses to do so. as long as it’s not printed directly on the invite and as long as you’re not saying, “give me money!” then i think it’s ok.
Post # 15
Any mention of gifts is not to be included on or with your wedding invitations. Shower invitations are something different, but people can Google your names and find your registry, ask someone for that information, or you can link it on your wedding website and mention that on your invitation enclosures.
Post # 16
@EMCasey: I know that this is not the formal “etiquitte” answer, but if I’m invited to a wedding, I’m going to bring a gift, and my least favorite thing is having to track down a registry with no information. I don’t really understand the point of etiquitte if it makes it harder and not easier on the guests.