Registry dilemma

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

You shouldn’t ASK for anything. If you don’t want gifts or just want cash don’t register. People will take the hint.

Post # 3
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

groomsbee:  We were in a similar position, planning to move across the world for 2 years soon after the wedding. We didn’t have a registry and when asked my Mum told people the situation and suggested vouchers for a really cool shop in my hometown. The advantage of this shop is that there’s no expiry date on the vouchers. Otherwise, since we didn’t have a list most people gave us money or small presents we could transport. The few gifts we did receive we left at my parents’ house with all the other stuff we didn’t want to ship across the world!!

Post # 4
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have attended a couple weddings that only had a Honeyfund. That still felt like the couple was asking for cash. I contribited still. One thing about Honeyfund, don’t apologize for it or qualify it by cutesy poems. Just put the info on how to access it on your wedding website or insert card and call it a day.

Post # 5
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2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I would just try to get the message out by word of mouth if you have to. But if you don’t register and your guests know you live abroad…I would think they can figure it out.

Post # 7
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1180 posts
Bumble bee

I’d skilp the charity route. Not everyone may be compelled to give to the charity of your choice. Also, giving to a charity seems less of a gift to some people. I believe for your situation, having no registry, and letting people know via word of mouth (if they ask you, through family, etc.) that cash is preferred. As for charities, just donate on your own.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: Tudor Arms

My fiance and I ran into the EXACT same problem while planning our wedding and got really frustrated with how there wasn’t anything else out there to really fit our needs, so we created a business ourselves to hopefully fix the problem (KnotProfit).

It allows couples to group-fund for whatever they want, like your honeymoon or even just the future gift items you know you’ll want later, but while doing all of that you can still raise donations to any charity of your choice. Your guests can opt out of it if they don’t agree with the nonprofit, but it’s a great way to raise money for a cause you love while still getting a little something 😉

I hope you like it! Let us know if there’s anything you would change–we’re always looking to improve!! http://knotprofit.com/couples/learn-more

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