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I always read that it's not OK to include it. When I opened up someone else's invitation and saw a big blazing "so and so are registered here" it really read to me like "here buy us a gift!" although I know some people appreciate the ease of knowing right off the bat where you are registered. We set up a website and are having the FI's mother spread the news to her less-techy family.
My one big thing with registries is to not register for stuff you wouldn't want to buy yourself. I have too many friends who registered for extra, unecessary gifts so they could return them for cash later, knowing family would easily spend $200 on a blender for them. My registry is small, but it's all things I need and it's all priced to the point that I woudl consider buying it myself, not just the over-inflated super fancy item. I'm trying not to *gouge* my guests I guess. I just want to know that when I buy someone else a wedding gift, it's something they need AND want, not just something they're going to return for cash or store credit. This is really something that bothers me. I'd just as soon write a check
I think that the change in the rules, if you're looking to see how etiquette is evolving, is to include registry information on the wedding website. In the past, regisrty information was passed by word of mouth, but in the age where not every guest knows the bride's mother, it's become common to search for info on the web... much like we're doing here!
I think that if etiquette is evolving on this topic, it's probably evolving into using your wedding website to announce registry information rather than to include the registry inserts in the invitation. I still think it's an etiquette no-no!
I had it originally on my invitations on the 'information' page. I had never thought about it and had seen it on other invitations. After reading how 'tacky' that was, I took it off.
go with a website, that way if the guests are looking for the info they can get to it, but it isn't in their face that they have to get you a gift.
I don't like including it in the invitation. Is there any other big event in your life where you would send info about the present you want along with the invitation/announcement? Anyone include that with their Bat Mitzvah? First Communion? Graduation? Even birthday party?
Yes, it is convenient. But presents still are actually optional for a wedding. Sending registry info indicates that they are not.
I agree you should put it on the website if you have one and not in the invitation itself. The website you can list on the invite.
Eh, I'm not offended by it at all. I've seen invitations with registry information and invites without, and I really don't care one way or the other. I think a lot of it depends on your family and friends. In some circles, it's just more common and more acceptable than in others. We put registry information on our website only, but that's because we also included a link directly to that registry page, which I thought made it a lot more convenient for our guests.
Just include it on your website - then post the website somewhere on your invites = easy! (and not so "in your face" tacky) :)
I'm still not fond of including it on shower invites, which as monalisa pointed out, is technically okay. I opened a shower invite and had a list of the couples 5 registries (with BIG colored logos and everything!) fall out. It left a bad taste in my mouth. I think that's the big thing about keeping the list out of your invite--you don't want to make anyone think "ugh, I guess I have to go to Crate & Barrel again..."
So helpful to hear other people's thoughts on this. :)
What do you think about putting:
Registry, and other information can be found at www . LL and RR wedding site . com ?
on our 'directions' card, i put...detailed information available at www.blahbla.com
I think it depends on your family & friends. I honestly don't care if the bride & groom include registry cards in their invititations, it's easier for the guests (IF they would like to buy them something off it). They don't HAVE to... and I think many people know that it's just for ideas. I wouldn't put it on the actual invite itself, but a small card off to the side is fine by me.
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I know there have been posts about this before, but I'm really curious if there is a majority on the answers. What do you think?
I've seen a lot that it is not a good thing to include registry info with the invite, but is is really offensive? Are we being too critical? I can honestly say I've received a ton of invites with registry info and I appreciate that I don't have to call people up asking. It makes it convenient and I've never been or even thought about being offended for it.
It used to be taboo to wear black to a wedding... but now at a lot of weddings, wearing a little black dress is welcomed. Have we moved on with registries too?