I’m pretty newly engaged and although I would like to have a non-traditonal, smallish (96 guests) wedding, it’s nearly impossible to do it in New York for under 10k. I was thinking a wedding at a park nearby and then a reception at our apt (it’s a pretty big loft), but I just feel that with that type of wedding, it may not even be worth it for my extended family to fly across country just for a wedding in the park and a reception at my house. Therefore, I think we are just going to have a city hall wedding and a big party at home for our local friends and family. With that being said, is it tacky to have a registry since I am technically eloping? Be honest! Thank you.
@mybelle84: since you are having a party i feel like the people coming may want to bring you a gift… but i would not register. normally people buy you a gift when they attend your wedding, but if you register then aunts/uncles/cousins who live far away will feel like they need to get you a gift and that isn’t fair.
my sister and her husband eloped and when they told everyone they got married and were having a party at their home it offended a lot of my family. I was hurt that they would get married without telling us, and it was kind of annoying that they did that and still expected presents
Not tacky at all, in my opinion. People will want to get you a gift so it will be nice to have a registy for them to look at.
I am doing a similar thing - destination wedding for 2 and then party at home. I did a small registry (this information will not be included with invitations or anything) but is there should someone want to buy a gift. I wasn’t planning on it, but got a lot of questions about one from friends and family about where I was registered so figured I might as well. I don’t expect anyone to buy me a gift, but if they want to, the registry is there for them.
I don’t think registering is ever tacky.
It’s only tacky if you demand people get you things or something