Post # 1
Emily Post says (and I agree), that you simply mustn’t put your registry information on the wedding invitation, or in the same envelope as the invitation.
The idea is that information about the registry should be spread via “word of mouth”.
My question is regarding whether or not it’s appropriate to put registry information on the wedding WEBSITE. Emily Post does not address this issue, as it was before her time. Ha ha!
Our STDs and wedding invitations are both going to include links to our wedding website, which will provide all the expected “additional information”. I’m torn about the registry thing, though. I DO NOT want to appear “greedy” but I also feel that in our culture now, it’s almost rude to not have that information “readily available”… I feel like if we didn’t have it anywhere people would think “well, NOW what do I get them?”… but I only think that because that’s how I would feel. :}
So… what do YOU think?
Thanks for all input!
Post # 3
I think putting it on your website is fine, and won’t be looked as greedy. I’ll be putting ours on our website.
Post # 4
I’m putting mine on my website, but only because FI insists. I think word of mouth is better, he gets upset about people trying to find the information, about the need to harass our parents if we don’t post it, and rants about what else the point of a wedding website is but to answer questions like this. So I’m putting it on the site.
Post # 5
We are also putting ours on our website. I hope it’s not rude – I realize many guests like to know this but a lot of our guests don’t know our parents and wouldn’t know who to ask. I’m going to watch this thread to see what others say.
Post # 6
I have never seen a wedding website without registry information, so I think it’s fine.
Quick googling shows that etiquette mavens think it is fine as long as it is not on the FRONT page of the wedding website.
Post # 7
Every wedding website I’ve seen had registry info. I think it’s totally fine.
Post # 8
I’ve heard as long as they have to click somewhere to (knowingly) get to it, then it’s similar if they had asked where you are registered.
Post # 9
@makemake: Martha says putting the info on the site is fine, but that it needs to be one of the last pages on the site.
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@makemake: I put registry info on our website… but I don’t think a lot of people have used our website that I spent so much time on :/
Post # 11
We also put a link on our invitations and registry information on our website. My MIL, Queen of All Things Proper, didn’t disapprove so I am going to go ahead and assume Emily Post wouldn’t protest either 🙂
Post # 12
I was concerned about this too and asked my most etiquette-conscious and judgey friend, and she said registry on the website is fine, as long as it isn’t on the first page or splashed all over.
Post # 13
@mchitt329: Same here. : I’ve had people asking me questions every time they see me, and I’m like, “IT’S ON THE FCKING WEBSITE!” Some people I forgive, like those who just don’t use the computer/internet, but we have a very tech-savvy friend who’s asked me several questions after stating that our STD is on his fridge. Considering we don’t really see one another that much, wouldn’t it just be easier to check the website that’s ON OUR STD?!
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@vorpalette: I know! My mom said she got asked about parking by a few people and I said you can respond with “www.lastnamefirstname/ourwedding.com” because I dedicated A WHOLE DAMN PAGE TO IT!!!!!!
I just updated it with 2 weekend events I thought people might enjoy if they come into town before the wedding… IDK why… no one will look at it!
Post # 15
When I created my wedding website at thetknot.com, I was absolutely horrified that the software automatically sought out my registry information and linked it to our wedding website. I was so upset that I actually contacted theknot.com to ask to have it removed (all the while suspecting — and being correct — that THIS is a major source of benefit to the site’s advertisers, thus resulting in my being informed that the site’s software would not support my requested action.)
When I discussed this with the etiquette experts at the high-end stationery boutique where I purchased my engraved wedding invitations, I was quite relieved to discover that it is considered to be perfectly acceptable to link your wedding registries to your website. The reason for this is that someone proactively has to choose to seek out this information if they are to find it. For those who have no interest in your wedding registry, they never need to visit your website, click on the links, or see the information.
I also was informed that it is perfectly acceptable to list your wedding website along the bottom of your accommodations card (the card that includes the hotel information and travel directions for your guests.)
Post # 16
@mchitt329: Ugh, I spent all this time looking at hotels and getting directions, addresses, parking instructions, FAQs, etc. and it’s like, why am I even bothering?