Post # 1
I’ve been helping a cousin put together her baby registry through a retailer around here, and she’s asked me to turn to the great Weddingbee regarding a question she has.
She’s going to have 40 – 50 items on her registry. That said, about 80% are small-ticket items — little odds and ends she needs, like baby medicines, etc. She has items ranging from $2 to $10, with 10 – 15 items hovering between $2 and $4. She has 3 big-ticket items on her registry: an infant carseat ($50), a dresser ($150) and a bookshelf ($50). Everything else is $15 or less.
Her concern is that she’s only looking to invite 15 – 20 people to her shower/sprinkle (this is her first baby), and she’s afraid that with so many items on her registry, she’s going to look greedy.
I’m of the opinion that her registry clearly shows she’s not trying to take anyone to the cleaners — most items are token ways to welcome the new baby into the world. But she can’t seem to move beyond the, “I’ll only have 15 – 20 people, but with 40 – 50 items, it’s like I’m telling each of them they have to buy me 3 things each.”
The TOTAL value of her registry is about $550 — or an average of $36 per guest for 15 guests, or $28 on average for 20 guests.
Since everyone attending is likely to be a closer relative, and I know her in-laws will shower her with gifts that are probably worth half, if not more, of her current registry, I don’t think she has anything to worry about.
What do you folks think?
Post # 3
@CookieCreamCakes: I think it’s fine. i like having more choices than anything else, so I don’t mind seeing long registries. it sometimes frustrates me when registries are bought out and I show up being the person with the gift card or cash gift!
Post # 4
She’s fine. No worries. Unless all the guests are hosts they don’t know how many gufts per per guest her registry amounts too. Token smaller stuff is usually not the fun cute sstuff to buy for babies. She’ll be lucky if people heed her registry. She may get more non-registry, “bigger” ticket items than she bargained for.
Post # 5
It’s not a problem for me. Some guests may choose to do a basket of little items, some will choose items off the registry, some will use her registry to determine her taste and buy off registry items.
I’ve never heard anyone complain that there were too many inexpensive items on a registry. I’ve only heard complaints when everything on the registry is a big ticket item.
Post # 6
I would think having options would be nice for the guests. I bet they will appreciate the small ticket items as they may have a budget in mind. I suggest she puts what she wants on the registry since she will get a discount towards the end of her pregnancy on the items that are left over.
Personally, I found that people bought all the little ticket items and things I didn’t ask for when I thought some might go together and get a big ticket item…
Post # 7
I think that’s fine. She’ll get the registry completion discount anyway, so at least she’ll be able to know what she still wants/needs.
Post # 8
If there is anything else she wants or thinks she might want, put it on! That way if someone buys it, yay great! If someone doesn’t but she still wants it, then she can get a discount on it. I would also set up a VIB (Very Important Baby) card at Toys R Us if she plans to shop there. People can add money to the card for essientials like diapers, wipes, baby food and a free 10% is added to what they put on it.
Post # 9
@CookieCreamCakes: Id suggest her putting more items on her registry. Including toys, etc. because even if she doesnt get them at her shower, she will be able to use her completion discount on the remaining items. And I think that is pretty common knowledge these days, so people won’t look at it as greedy.
Post # 10
@CookieCreamCakes: Her situation is very similar to mine. First time mom, about 15-20 people at the shower (which is this Saturday), and I have two registries, each with about 40-50 items. All the items, with the exception of around 5-8 items (stroller/car seat, mattress, video monitor, etc), are all very inexpensive or moderately priced, less than $30.
Post # 11
Sounds fine to me. I don’t ever judge orioles registry. For all I know she is usig it as a list for herself to keep herself organized and making it easier to purchase everything when she needs to!