Post # 1
Does anyone have any experience in registering for a house down payment rather than gifts? This idea is sounding better and better to my FH and I by the day. I just don’t know where to look or where to start. Any advice or tips would be helpful!
Post # 3
My FI and I were considering that too since we dont really need anything. We were going to do HoneyFund for a Honeymoon registry, but you can also add other things such as a house downpayment, as a gift option on that site.
As a guests a would prefer to contribute to a couple getting a home than buying them china 🙂
Post # 4
I think it’s a great idea, although I’m not sure how to go about it. You could include a wedding website on your invitations and create a registry section and in place of stores, put something about the house fund.
Post # 5
We didn’t really need gifts since we already had a house together so what we did was ask for cash. I didn’t do one of the money registries because I don’t like the expenses that they charge.
Post # 6
the site you’re looking for is http://www.depositagift.com you can register for anything that you’d like money for. we found it really helpful to avoid the ‘asking for cash’ awkwardness because it’s still a registry. the other option is not registering at all and hoping people figure it out (which, in me and my friends’ experience doesn’t work and always backfires into a bunch of random stuff without receipts that you don’t want and can’t return). it’s a really cool site that’s been working well for us. i’d definitely check it out.
Post # 7
@shaunakryan: Well if you want to be polite. There is no way to register for cash that is considered polite. If you do not register most people will probably give you cash anyway which you can then apply to a house.
Post # 8
@shaunakryan: I think mbeeeee has a great idea. The website seems like a pretty good way to ask for help with purchases and it is easy and polite. Chinese wedding is always expected to give cash so I never had to go through this. Though I saw a couple of friends wedding invites that states NO BOX GIFT PLEASE
@mbeeeee: Great site! Have you used it before?
Post # 9
@Kura: Honestly, I think the No Boxed Gift note on an invite is confusing plus a lot of people don’t like registry indo in the invite.
Post # 10
yup! using it and really impressed with the customer service and how easy the site is to use. for us it’s really solved an issue because our people like registries, so this way they still get to buy a gift the way the want, but it’s going towards something we’ll actually keep and not return. we didn’t want to be disingenuous and register for stuff we didn’t want, making people pay money on shipping that is totally wasted.
Post # 11
You can do it a couple different ways. You can choose to sign up for a website that lets people make donations online and ask your parnets and wedding party to spread the word about it. Do NOT include this info in any kind of email or invite.
That way might result in some backlash, however, even though you aren’t public about it because some people are just against asking for cash in any way. So the other option is to not register anywhere. I know this is less appealing because you don’t want a bunch of random presents, but I guarantee you will still get random presents if you register online for a down payment so there is no avoiding it. And this way at least you look less gift grabby. We had friends who didn’t register anywhere and the obvious solution was to give them cash. If they had set up an online registry I would have still given them a card with a check because I’m not a fan of those online money registries.
Post # 12
Even if you do this, I would still register for something, somewhere. I have a friend who did a honeymoon registry, and halfway in she found she couldn’t afford to go, but it was the only registry she had. I don’t like giving cash for weddings, so we ended up getting her a themed gift. I think if you don’t register anywhere, you’re going to see a lot of people like me. We mean well, but we’re also not going to be comfortable just sending you money.
Post # 13
In many cases, people give cash anyways. I don’t know if there really is a “polite” way to request cash, even if it is through a registry for a down payment.
Post # 14
We are in the same position- mainly want money to put toward a house. We are just going to register for a few items for those that really want to give a gift (who doesn’t need new sheets and towel?) and then mention the house down payment thing to our close family and friends and hope the word spreads.
I know it’s a controversial topic but personally I am a bit put off by the honeymoon etc. registry sites.
Post # 15
i wouldn’t mind if someone turned up to my wedding empty handed, the only reason i’m inviting my guests is because i want them there, saying that i feel i know all my guests well enough that if i get asked what i want as a gift, that i can say a donation to the newly wed fund please, the people i am inviting are my closest friends and closest family members, we often give cash gifts on birthdays, christenings and for christmas, so why not weddings, i feel if you know you guests well enough then just ask
Post # 16
Have you thought about using Wanderable? (http://wanderable.com/pages/honeymoon_registry) It’s really pretty.
You can upload any pictures you want, so I think you’d also be able to put things like the downpayment. I used a honeymoon registry, mostly because I had been living with my husband for a couple years, and we really didn’t need more things in the kitchen.