Registry/ Gifts/ Lack thereof…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My understanding is that a lot of people buy from the registry for a shower but less so for the wedding itself.  For the wedding, I imagine you will probably get cards and money/checks.  “Random crap” is a little ungrateful, I must say… but I suspect you know that.

Post # 4
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599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Honestly, for longer distance weddings, I usually buy a gift card to the place the couple registered. That way they can use it towards a larger item they didnt’ receive or fill in the gaps of things they didn’t get that are smaller 🙂

People could just be doing that!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Britk:  Sorry, I really thought it said crap!  Strange.

I am not registering for any gifts so I don’t know what is expected or not, just what I’ve seen people say on here.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I am a guilty party who would rather buy something than give cash, yet waits until completely the last minute.  Sometimes wrapping in the car…

Re: the website.  If I were in a panic for a gift and wanted to find the registry, the website is the first place I’d look.  I don’t think you went astray here, I just think people like to give cash.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should relax. I think more and more people are just giving cash or cheques.

Those who do prefer to buy physical gifts also often comparison shop and buy something from the registry but maybe at another store where they get a better buy.

Post # 9
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Britk:  We got a fair amount of cash/cheque cards at the wedding. Make sure to have somewhere secure for people to put them in.

We had about 160 people at the wedding, and had a small shower a couple months before the wedding. We did get a number of gifts before the wedding, showing up on our doorstep, but most of the gifts came in cards at the reception!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Garden ceremony and Conservatory reception

Britk:  I feel like the bridal shower is more common to receive registry gifts. After all, the purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride with support, celebrations, gifts, etc. before her wedding day.

Weddings get a bit more into grey area. It is not expected of a guest to bring the couple a gift, but from my experience with friends’ and family weddings; it seems more common that cash, cheques or gift cards are given to the bride and groom. 

Just my opinion…but you’re two days away from your wedding day! Try not to sweat the small stuff 🙂 your new home will be beautiful, and your big day will be fabulous!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Here was my experience: the only things bought off the registry were for my shower. Very few registry items were purchased for the wedding, and most of those were like the day before the wedding. Most people don’t think about wedding gifts until the day before. We got mostly cash and checks from one side of the family and mostly random gifts that we didn’t register for from the other side. Our friends were the ones who picked up small registry items the day before the wedding.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I never give gifts for weddings- always cash. I would say 95% of the “gifts” we received at our wedding was cash.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

People buy registry stuff at the very last minute (like on the way to the wedding lol) or just give cash.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

Britk:  You are so close to your wedding and all you are stressing about is gifts?  Really?  That is the wrong thing to be thinking about! 

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