Post # 1
So we are two days out from the wedding, and the only gifts that have been purchased from our registry are the ones I received at my bridal shower.
We had the registry on our wedding website, and getting people to RSVP was like pulling teeth! So I’m pretty sure nobody looked twice at the registry.
I don’t want to come off as ungrateful or entitled; I just think it’s really weird. Whenever I am invited to a wedding, I RSVP immediately and buy a gift off of the registry within a week or two of getting the invite.
FI and I are moving in together after the wedding for the first time out on our own besides college, so we registered for things we genuinely need. Although we aren’t expecting gifts, and I would appreciate the thought of any gift, I’m also afraid people are buying us a bunch of random stuff we don’t need.
Has the wedding completely warped my brain? Am I going crazy here?
Post # 2
My understanding is that a lot of people buy from the registry for a shower but less so for the wedding itself. For the wedding, I imagine you will probably get cards and money/checks. “Random crap” is a little ungrateful, I must say… but I suspect you know that.
Post # 3
HannahGrace: Which is why I said random “stuff” 😉 Like I said, I just thought it was totally weird!
Post # 4
Honestly, for longer distance weddings, I usually buy a gift card to the place the couple registered. That way they can use it towards a larger item they didnt’ receive or fill in the gaps of things they didn’t get that are smaller 🙂
People could just be doing that!
Post # 5
Britk: Sorry, I really thought it said crap! Strange.
I am not registering for any gifts so I don’t know what is expected or not, just what I’ve seen people say on here.
Post # 6
I am a guilty party who would rather buy something than give cash, yet waits until completely the last minute. Sometimes wrapping in the car…
Re: the website. If I were in a panic for a gift and wanted to find the registry, the website is the first place I’d look. I don’t think you went astray here, I just think people like to give cash.
Post # 7
MsKnitter: that makes sense!
HannahGrace: You’re fine! I know that gifts are a touchy subject as is, so I tried to word everything carefully. As I mentioned, even if we didn’t get gifts, we would be fine with it… But moving in together, we needed a lot, and people were asking what we needed. We didn’t put anything on the registry we aren’t planning on purchasing for ourselves anyway (:
Post # 8
I think you should relax. I think more and more people are just giving cash or cheques.
Those who do prefer to buy physical gifts also often comparison shop and buy something from the registry but maybe at another store where they get a better buy.
Post # 9
Britk: We got a fair amount of cash/cheque cards at the wedding. Make sure to have somewhere secure for people to put them in.
We had about 160 people at the wedding, and had a small shower a couple months before the wedding. We did get a number of gifts before the wedding, showing up on our doorstep, but most of the gifts came in cards at the reception!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Garden ceremony and Conservatory reception
Britk: I feel like the bridal shower is more common to receive registry gifts. After all, the purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride with support, celebrations, gifts, etc. before her wedding day.
Weddings get a bit more into grey area. It is not expected of a guest to bring the couple a gift, but from my experience with friends’ and family weddings; it seems more common that cash, cheques or gift cards are given to the bride and groom.
Just my opinion…but you’re two days away from your wedding day! Try not to sweat the small stuff 🙂 your new home will be beautiful, and your big day will be fabulous!
Post # 11
Here was my experience: the only things bought off the registry were for my shower. Very few registry items were purchased for the wedding, and most of those were like the day before the wedding. Most people don’t think about wedding gifts until the day before. We got mostly cash and checks from one side of the family and mostly random gifts that we didn’t register for from the other side. Our friends were the ones who picked up small registry items the day before the wedding.
Post # 12
I never give gifts for weddings- always cash. I would say 95% of the “gifts” we received at our wedding was cash.
Post # 13
People buy registry stuff at the very last minute (like on the way to the wedding lol) or just give cash.
Post # 14
Thank you all so much for your comments! I think being two days away just has me stressing about the small stuff (:
Post # 15
Britk: You are so close to your wedding and all you are stressing about is gifts? Really? That is the wrong thing to be thinking about!