Post # 1
ok, this may have already been asked – but as far as registry information, how AWFUL is it to put the information in your invitation?
My Maid/Matron of Honor was talking about the wedding shower today and how THAT is the only place (the shower invite) that the registry information goes on and that ‘proper etiquette’ states you NEVER put your registry information in your invites…
thing is, though, not everyone will be invited to the shower – so how will everyone know where we are registered? we do NOT have a website and know that too many people we are inviting don’t have computer access (just older people)…
so really is it that awful to put the info in the invitation packet?
Post # 3
Actually it is. It’s completely inappropriate (think of like your begging) to add your registry info to the wedding invite. Your Maid/Matron of Honor is right. People find these things about by talking to the people “in the know”. People will go to the other people they know (though occasionally they do go to the bride and groom) in the wedding to ask for registry information. My family usually goes to the Mother of the bride, another common person to go to is the Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
Emily Post would roll over and freak out…. but some of your guests wont give it a second thought. I got an invite from a friend two weeks ago and she included her registry info and I didnt think twice about it. That being said, had my mother gotten the invite, she probably would have thought it was in very poor taste. We just included our wedding website in our invite (and the registry info was on there).
Post # 5
Yeah, I think its really not appropriate to put on the invitation. If you do not have a website, it will spread by word of mouth. Guests, especially if they are older, know that people register and will know to find out where your registry is. Just make sure a few key people (you parents, your FI’s parents, bridesmaids and groomsmen or a few other friends) know where your registries are and I’m sure people will find them.
Post # 6
Your Maid/Matron of Honor is right – the only “right” place to put registry information is in the shower invitation. Dont put it in the wedding invitation – if you have a website you can put it on there. I understand how not everyone is invited to the shower but they will find out by word of mouth where you are registered. Your Bridesmaid or Best Man, family and even guests who went to the shower will be able to tell people. Also, on sites like here and weddingchannel.com, they have an app where you can find out where people are registered by typing in their name. Look at “Registry Finder” on the right side of the page 🙂
Post # 7
i think it needs to be said that different cultures/areas do things differently so for one that says its totally inappropriate, for others its the norm. i cant remember ever not receiving a wedding invite and the registry card isnt included with the invite.
i know these days the common answer is put your website info on the invite (somehow this is more polite for some reason) but what did people do before websites i often wondered
Post # 8
I’m sure that this bridge has been crossed, but if you included it in your information don’t feel bad. My fiacen and I included alittle business card with our save teh dates AND invitations that said where we were registered. I don’t think of it as tacky. Weddings are what YOU want them to be, who cares what pompous people think about including registry information. I didn’t create a registry for nothing. I want them to buy me thigns, s I’m going to include the information. ‘Nuff Said!