(Closed) Registry Manipulation?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What are your thoughts on registry manipulation?
    It's OK. They want you to end up with what you want. : (10 votes)
    20 %
    It's NOT OK. It's taking advantage of your guests and wasting their money. : (41 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    That sounds horrible! If people are kind enough to buy you gifts, you shouldn’t try to take advantage. I can see registering for individuals instead of sets to include more affordable price points, but I think it’s wrong to register for items with the intent of returning them and/or trick your guests into spending more.

    Post # 4
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    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @Mars62312:  I wouldn’t do it…..I’d rather just list exactly what I want and not deviously work to get the most out of my guests. Plus I hate dealing with returning/exchanging things and that would just be a cluster.

    Post # 5
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    5548 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We did this. And I don’t think it is bad, because not many people want to buy us the whole $250 set of pots, but willl buy a pot or something. We had both, so if someone (like my parents did) want to buy the whole set, they could but if someone else wanted to just buy part, they could do that too.

    Post # 6
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would definitely register for separate items so that there is more of a price range for guests to choose from (I would rather have a bunch of $20 items than one $300 item that most people couldn’t afford), but I would never do it with the intention of “manipulation”.

    Post # 7
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    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Eh, I don’t really care. I don’t see how this would hurt anyone. I don’t think this would really ‘waste peoples’ money’ at all. When I buy someone a wedding gift I set a budget and then I buy something within that budget. I’m sure most people buy gifts the same way. I doubt it would trick people into spending more or something.

    However, most of the people who bought us gifts did not give us a gift recipet, so I doubt we could have returned them anyhow.

    Post # 8
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    It depends how you look at it. If you register for individual items because it’s less expensive for your guests, then that’s great. There is nothing worse than printing out a registry and having no gifts to choose from under $150.

    But if you are doing this with the itention of returning items so you can get money back, well that is terrible.

    I can’t imagine spending the time making all those returns and keeping everything straight. I’d rather just register for a variety of items in at all different price points.

    Post # 9
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    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would list them separately, but only because I see people more likely to buy me one pot than to go in for the entire set?  I wouldn’t return an item just to buy it again.

    (Though we did register for some items we were only so-so about, because it’s so hard getting enough things on a registry! Some items we may end up returning and I’ll feel bad because we “asked” for them.)

    Post # 10
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    46155 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Registering for anything with the intent of taking it back is unethical, period. If you don’t want something, don’t register for it.

    If you register for individual items to develop a registry of gifts at all price levels, you are being considerate of your guests. You may still have to return something, if one guest buys an individual item and another buys the whole set, but I assume you would purchase something else off your list with the refund.

    Post # 12
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    674 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t see anything wrong with the act of registering for individual pieces as opposed to a set, but the intent to deceive your guests is clearly wrong.

    I doubt this is something many women would even be tempted to do for ill intent because most probably register for the individual items for the same reasons PP gave – it provides more price points. Plus, think about all the math you’d have to do on the variety of things on a typical registry. The time spent tracking down individual items, adding up the prices, and comparing them to prices of the set would offset pretty much any money gained from the return process – assuming you actually received all the pieces to make it financially useful in the first place.

    I also look at registering for individual items the same way as how we’re building our quality knife collection. I not only didn’t want to spend the money to buy a full set with the block, but I didn’t see a full set in the block that had a variety of knives I wanted. Therefore, a set is actually more wasteful, even if I could save some money. Instead, we’re picking them up one knife at a time.

    Post # 13
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    1623 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think this is horrible and takes away the spirit of gift giving.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I think you could register for items individually because you might be more likely to end up with them all, but I don’t think it’s the best idea to register for things for the sole purpose of returning them for a profit. And ethics aside, that sounds like a ton of work!

    Post # 16
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    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    we registered for both with the idea that some people may want to buy one item and not our $800 set. once the set was purchased, i took off the individual items!

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