Registry or no registry?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if there is nothing you need or want, don’t register.  don’t let her force you to do something you don’t want.

you could always register for a couple of items to appease her if you wanted.

Post # 3
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you don’t want or need a registry, then don’t have one. People will likely still bring gifts or money. 

Post # 4
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

svjordan: can you suggest she host a bridal lunch or engagement party instead of an actual shower? That way she can be involved and you don’t have to have people buying you things?

 

The other idea may be to let her know you guys have all the physical stuff you need, but you would like to do home improvement from store X, Y or Z and since they don’t have a registry you’d just like GC to them. I registered and let it known about Home Depot — we wanted to build our own fence — and at my shower I ended up getting about half physical gifts and half GCs or cash.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You could do one of those fun, alternative registrys where you can register for activities, trips, or camping equipment. If people want to purchase you something more traditional that don’t want, you can always return or exchange it.

 

This one is pretty neat: http://www.sokindregistry.org/

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Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

svjordan:  People are going to give you gifts. Register somewhere, anywhere or you are going to get lots of stuff you dont want. At Bed Bath and Beyond, they will give you cash back for items bought off your registry. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We’re not bothering. We live together already and both brought our seperate ‘stuff’ to the relationship so we have a ton of housewares etc and really no need for any more. Plus I have been married before so think it’s a bit poor form to register again. Our wedding is six weeks away and we have already been given some gifts despite telling people not to give us any! So people will likely give you gift certificates or money if you don’t register anyway.

Post # 8
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442 posts
Helper bee

We are in the same boat. We already have everything we need or could dream of. We are not doing a registry. We have also asked for no gifts or money. Their gift to us is spending the day with us. We do well for ourselves and can’t imagine taking from our families who make much less than us.

Post # 9
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Newbee

svjordan:  I’ve heard of honeymoon registry. It where your guest buy upgrade or the dinner or couple spa I’m not sure the details but if that interest you I’m sure your FMIL will find the details and organise it. It you truly want nothing let her help with hosting a dinner for the wedding party which will get her involved without being involved

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

svjordan:  We are not having a registry either, but mostly because we have lived together and have children and we don’t need any household items. I just posted a suggestion on my website, if anyone wanted to get us something they could give us gift cards for home improvement stores as an idea, because that is something anyone can use, but I feel the same. Why have a registry if you don’t need anything? I don’t want to go scan a bunch of items just for the sake of doing so, it wouldn’t be anything we needed. 

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