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Hahaha you are too funny!! I absolutely check for the presents that I give to people when I go to their house after the wedding!! I totally agree with you on the concept. The only reason I cared about return policies was because of the chance of duplicates. Sometimes people will buy you something off the registry.. but not tell the store who they are buying it for.. so then someone else buys the same gift because it still shows as available. We had this happen a couple times.
I agree with you. My cousins kept telling FI and me that we should registered for the most expenisve gift, exchange it for a cheaper one and keep the cash difference. I AM NOT DOING THAT BTW, but seriously? WTF!! Just register for what you want!
Although I can see if you registered for something and then someone got you two of something - I know that is the point of the registery, but I anticipate that this may happen.
;-) that's a perfectly logical response to my rant. I'm looking for people to commiserate with, hahaha.
How about this - I'll resolve to always remove my item from the couple's registry, whether I buy in the store, or buy at another store. I'll give the heads up to take it off. THEN if the tongs are gone, BUSTED.
Haha Lord have mercy on the souls you buy tongs for if they aren't in sight when you are around :) This kills me lol. BTW I totally agree with you
If you ever come to my house I'm not grilling!! I wouldn't even want to HOLD tongs in your presence : )
Maybe I should use a new example, because I LOVE BBQ-ing and wouldn't want to discourage it, even in these circumstances ! heehee
We've had people purchase items from stores we didn't register from. Which mean our registry wasn't updated and we got multiples of an item. Awesome. So we've had to return items to the store we registered at (I'd rather have their store credit or cash than store credit at a store I didn't even register at).
We made sure to register at places with good return policies. Stuff happens that is out of your control and you want to be happy with the customer service you get and the customer service your guests get when they are purchasing a gift for you. I fully intend to keep all the gifts we get - unless they are duplicates or part of a set gets discontinued before we complete our set.
LMAO- you are hysterical, Melissa, but I hear ya.
Other couples specifically told us to register at stores that will give you cash for returns, and I thought to myself, then what's the point of registering if I'm just gonna take the stuff back? Plus, I would be hurt if I bought someone something I thought they really wanted from their registry only to have them return it- so I wouldn't want to do that to someone else.
Plus, registering stressed me out (I am bad at making decisions and accepting gifts from people)- so you bet your ass I actually want everything we registered for! :)
@texasmerideth- ahhh, I see what you mean about getting multiples from people who didn't buy off the specific store registry. I didn't think of that. I see your point.
@melissa... you get no BBQ and then if you complain about not liking what I do decide to make.. I'm going to ask you if you are "with child". SERIOUSLY.. your MIL says that to you? I would die.
Many tims the registries arent updated fast enough and you get two of one item and you want to return it. I dont think many people are talking abuot return policies with the intention of not keeping what they registered for. We registered for full china sets and then realized it was a better option for us to have individual pieces so when people bought us the china set before we changed it, we were able to return/exchange it for the individual pieces.
You know, I always really wanted to have three sets of tongs...
I totally get you. It makes no sense. Honestly, I would much rather have a return policy with flexible in store credit. Then if I get three blenders somehow, I can complete the registry instead of frittering away cash on lattes and crap.
I only registered for things I really want and will use. There are too many good options to take any other approach.
I see it more as what if I really want one thing on my registry, but no one buys it for us? Then we can return something that was nice to have but get the must haves. Does that make more sense?
I was concerned about the return policy because of duplicates, as stated above, but recently I received a registry gift in the mail (that the giver had purchased in the store then sent to us, not through the internet store) and the gift was damaged. We brought it back to the store, here, and even though the item was on clearance now and they were out of them in our store, we were able to get the full amount of credit paid for it, by the giver, because she purchased it through our registry and it was checked off as such. So we did "return" her gift, and were not able to replace it specifically beacuse they did not have it in stock - but we got a similar item. BTW, they were salad tongs - so your salad spinner/bbq tongs reference made me laugh! Ha!
We didn't receive a single duplicate!! We must be lucky. Ok, my rant still stands, but it only applies to those ppl in Monkeygirl's story that register for the cash back. ;-) ;-)
oh and sunny makes a great point... i wish registries could be prioritized! i would love to have a magic bullet, but i really need the cat hair vaccuum! heehee. they should make registries so that only certain need things are viewable until similarly priced items have been purchased, then the wants can be seen.
@VagabondGurl exactly! Amazon.com is the only registry I've seen where it prioritizes items based on your wants and needs.
In addition to the whole duplicate issue, return policies matter for people who get married far from where they live. Instead of lugging toasters and plates back on a plane (is that even possible?) or renting a uhaul to transfer them all . . . just return and rebuy once you get home!
Also, some people just don't want/need all that stuff. So why register in the first place? Because, if they don't, they end up with a lot of random stuff that they not only don't need, but have no way of returning!
I'm totally with you Melissabegins!! Even if you do get a couple of duplicates, the return policy shouldn't be a big deal. The main store that gets complaints is Target but I know they only have a difficult return policy if you don't have a receipt. So the odds of something being a duplicate and not having a receipt for either one of the duplicates? Not much. And even if this is the case, you'll just get store credit. So go buy something that didn't get purchased off your registry!
I've never understood all the comments about stores' return policies ....
I used to feel the exact same way, but then I received 2 multiples (of course of the cheapest things) and now I'm wishing I could just have the cash for the multiple, but of course you can't get cash from anyone for a registry (minus BB&B of course). Also, only 1 person bought us some towels so if we don't get any more I'd rather return them for cash and buy towels down the road.
Registries for the most part are extremely inflexible with return policies because it's kind of a scam. If you went to the store and bought a $200 coffee maker and it didn't work, you can return it. But if you registered for it, too bad store credit only. It's a total racket.
I'm guilty of this. 
We registered for a digital scale, but I found another digital scale on sale (cheaper and better) and forgot to take the scale off our list and someone got it. They also got us a bamboo organizer which I know have found out is too big for our drawers.
Oh and we registered for stainless steel pots at BB&B and Pampered Chef because we really want to replace our teflon ones, but if people get us the Pampered Chef stuff we will return the BB&B pots/pans (some people hate PC for whatever reason, but if I need a 12" frying pan and someone buys the BB&B one, but not the PC one I will keep it). Plus when we walked around with our consultant at BB&B they made us register for the entire pots/pans set and each individual piece in case people wanted to get us the pot, but not spend money on the whole set.
So....yeah. Guilty as charged.
lol Melissa, I totally agree!
I have to say in response to the comments about prioritized gifts, I wish more stores would do that too! I know that Amazon does 'love to have' or 'like to have' etc, but I don't think I've seen anyone else do that. My theory though is that Macy's and the like don't want potential buyers thinking that they should only spring by the 'love to have' stuff and keep the lower priority gifts behind, because they don't want to risk losing a profit.
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Just wanted to vent, instead of on a post I just replied to. A lot of talk about where to register revolves around which store has a better return policy.
Why would you register if you intend on taking the gifts back?! That is completely lame. I'd be super annoyed if I bought a gift from someone's registry and they took it back for cash. You know what? I'd probably have just given them cash (and more cash than I would if I got a gift off a registry in even dollar amounts) if that's what they wanted. So, instead of you getting a check for $100 from me, you're going to get a Salad Spinner and a set of BBQ Tongs BECAUSE YOU ASKED FOR THEM. If I come to your house for a bbq and you don't have them, that's probably the last gift you're going to receive from me. If i get you an off the wall gift and you take it back, no worries. But you register for it? You'd better want that gift!