Post # 1
OK..so i have been engaged for 2 years now and I have been really easy going with the planning. I am starting to get a little antsy now and so since I have surmised that my bridal shower will be in the next few weeks (likely even within the next 2 weeks), I have been checking my registry. IT IS SO MUCH FUN to see what little gifts people got for us! I am SOO grateful that people are getting stuff for us, but there is just one little problem. There have only been 5 gifts purchased total–2 of which we received in the mail from a relative who can not attend. Now, I have never traditionally received many gifts from people so I was not expecting much at all! However, I feel a little disappointed. I also feel REALLY GUILTY about feeling this way. I am a giver so I always go 100% above and beyond for everyone in my life, so I guess I was just excited at the prospect of getting some goodies for a change! Am I am completely terrible person for feeling this way?? I would never tell any one involved that this is how I feel (obviously) but I figured maybe some of you wonderful ladies can help take the sting out of it.
THANKS SOOO MUCH for listening
Post # 2
kaitlyn.e.geiger: I think youre fretting wayyyy prematurely. If youre having a shower, everyone will come with a gift. Its the point of a shower. Lots of people put this stuff off till the very last minute.
I suggest you decide to stop worrying about not getting enough, and focus on gratitude. View all gifts as bonus funsies, cherry on the getting married sundae and you wont be disappointed.
Post # 3
MrsBuesleBee: Thank you very much. I was afraid to even post bc I feel that I am getting upset for no reason. I am mainly afraid that people will not attend and the gifts are a reflection of that. I have been on my own since I was 13 so I am completely fine with buying everything for myself–i dont know. I am just afraid no one is going to come! LOL. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH for the positive words <br /><3
Post # 4
We had a shower in July and only 3 or 4 gifts were purchased the day before the event. I was selfishly annoyed. The day of the shower, everyone came with a gift from the registry. Everyone had either waited to buy THAT DAY, or purchased a gift from our registry from another store (cheaper, more convenient, whatever reason.) Sometimes even the store F’s up and it doesn’t show up as purchased. Target and BBB are bad about that.
Don’t worry about it!
Post # 5
Most people will purchase gifts right up until the hour of the shower. No need to worry!
Post # 6
kaitlyn.e.geiger: Your’e not a terrible person. It’s normal to feel excitement or disappointment when it comes to your registry 🙂 This is a great time in your life and emotions run high. However, keep in mind that people usually buy gifts at the last minute (usually on the day of the event.) I was freaking out myself when I was watching my registry before my shower. But on the day of, I got plenty of gifts. Just relax, everything will work out great and you will be showered and pampered on your big day 🙂
Post # 7
Dude, I definitely buy my shower gifts the day of the shower – maybe the day before if I’m feeling extra responsible. I wouldn’t worry at all about it.
Also, this question comes up a lot, so it’s definitely not just you and me.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
kaitlyn.e.geiger: I just had my shower this past Saturday – most people wait until the last minute to purchase a gift. A few people went off registry or purchased items at a different store. I wouldn’t fret about it because you will be showered with gifts and love, I am sure!
Post # 9
I have a shower this coming Saturday, and have been seeing that some items were bought right after the invites for it went out… but now have slowed. Plus, I have text alerts set for our JCP registry, and out of the 10 alters I’ve gotten (probably all towels!), it only reflects that 5 things have actually been purchased.
I’m with everyone else, I usually wait until right before and have a game plan for buying their shower and wedding present at the same time so it’s done… and usually a day or two before the shower too.
Post # 10
EVERYONE has been SOO helpful! I can not even begin to thank you enough! My bridesmaids are super busy with life and planning the bridal shower so I haven’t had many people to talk to about these things lately. It is SOO refreshing to feel like I have people to turn to!! You all are wonderful! Absolutely wonderful
Post # 11
People always wait until the last minute. I wouldn’t worry about it. The only time I’ve ever seen people not buy off the registry was my SIL’s shower…but I’m 99% sure that’s because everything was ridiculously high priced ($300 waffle maker anyone?).
Post # 12
also remember that gifts are not required, its a bonus. be happy to celebrate with people that love & support you.
Post # 13
one solution would be to stop checking your registry. then you can be pleasantly surprised if people do show up with gifts and you don’t stress yourself out for no reason.