(Closed) registry question

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Well, this is a matter of great debate.  Supposedly you don’t actually mention this at all.  The conventional wisdom is that it gets around "by word of mouth" which seems to mean that everybody calls you, or you Fiance or one of your moms to ask. 

You also see those little business-card-sized things that the stores give out, just included in the envelope with the invitation.  And several of the invitation design sites that I looked at would print up a separate registry card, to match the invitation, and include in the pocketfold.  We actually went with this option.  It looks nice, it sits behind the directions, the map, and the RSVP, it matches everything.  It just says "The couple is registered at the following:" and then lists the three places we registered, with their websites.

While lots of sites (and people) will still tell you its not done, I figured I would let my mom be the arbiter of etiquette in this case, since otherwise she would be the one who would field most of the phone calls from guests.  She indicated that she would prefer us to print and include a card.

If you want to PM me I will send you the file so you can see what it looks like (the card, and a mock-up of the assembled pocketfold).

Post # 4
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

right now, we’re planning to put the information on our website.  the website will be on the invitation.  that way, we can avoid sending out a big announcement as to where we’ve registered and still mitigate the phone calls.

Post # 5
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I actually prefer the old school or new school approach, that is to either:

(1) Not put it on the invite – people will ask your parents and bridal party where you are registered and they can inform them (just make sure to tell these people first!)

(2) On your invite put the address of your wedding website – such as "further info about our wedding can be found on our website". This way you can have a page on the website dedicated to the registry with links to each registry.

I really don’t like the idea of the registry on the invite. You are inviting people to a wedding, not soliciting gifts. I’m actually so adverse to recieving gifts that my Fiance and I are asking anyone who wants to give a gift to donate to charity instead… so maybe I’m the strange one!

Post # 6
38 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

I think it’s best to not put the registry info in your invitation- be sure your maid of honor/mom, or whomever is doing your bridal showers- they will let people know.  I see nothing wrong with putting it on your website

Post # 7
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

The registry information is not supposed to go in the invite. It is the job of your bridesmaids and groomsmen to spread the word.  However, if you have a website you can post it there!

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

You don’t! It’s considered improper etiquette to have ANY mention of gifts on your invitation, even if you are asking for no gifts at all.

 The savvy way to do it these days is to set up a wedding website and have a section for registries there, and include a card with a link to your wedding website in your invitation. Of course the website should have more info than JUST the registry! It’s also helpful to directions, things to do in town, etc.

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