Registry question!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would make a small registry with gifts not going over $75. I would send a thank you for any gifts you get, even if it’s a bottle of wine or picture frame. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t register. People usually don’t bring gifts to an engagement party and if they do they’ll just bring a card/money. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t let your future MIL pressure you into registering for what are, essentially, engagement parties.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Lisasaurusrex:  It is not rude not to register nor is it the same as asking for cash.  Anyone who gets “offended” that you’re not registered is out of their gourd. 

Buying and receiving gifts is supposed to be about sentiment and affection – not fulfilling someone’s shopping list.  If someone likes you enough to want to get you a gift, then they should enjoy selecting something for you – not get annoyed that you haven’t told them what to buy and where.  That removes all sentiment from the gift and reduces it to some burdensome obligation. 

No, you don’t write thank you cards to people for attending a party. If someone gets you a gift, write a thank you for that but it’s out of place to thank people for accepting your hospitality. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

I wouldn’t register. frankly I would find it odd if I was invited to the engagement party, not the wedding, and knew you put together a registry. I think registry shows forethought that you were expecting gifts. 

My FMIL tried to pressure me to register for our engagement party but I put my foot down for the same reasons you stated. A few people brought cash and gift cards, we got a few bottles of wine, and one random crystal butterfly from an old aunt. 

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