(Closed) Registry question

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think that idea is becomming more and more popular and it really makes sense. If some of your guests are uncomfortable gifting an "experience" rather than an object for you or your home, they can still choose from your regular registry (I think it’s good you’re making one) or give you money or something they would like you to have. It might be a good time to take inventory of the things you and your FI have had in your home already. Maybe some should be updated and the old things can be donated.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Honeymoon registries are completely acceptable and I find that many people in our age group actually prefer it.  People completely understand that you’re not made of money, and would love to help make sure your honeymoon is fantastic.

There are the traditionalists who will still feel like bringing a gift to the wedding.  But there are many who feel weird about giving cash, so the honeymoon registry allows them a way to give you something monetary w.o actually exchanging cash. 

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Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We considered a honeymoon registry, and actually are not doing it.  It does sound like its more and more widely used, but I’m not sure most of our guests would have seen one before.  And no matter how we looked at it, it seemed like asking for money, which we weren’t really comfortable with. (My sister thinks we’re crazy and should totally do it, so I have to say I think this is completely a personal decision.)  On the other hand, since you are having a destination wedding near your honeymoon location, it would be clearly annoying if people brought gifts, and some people still like to do that rather than having them sent.  Giving you something you could use practially on location (part of the honeymoon) might make them feel nice, and people might be more likely to give cash anyway for a destination wedding, since they can actually hand you the envelope and feel nice about that.

As ErinSea says, once we started looking really hard at the stuff we own, while some of it is nice, a lot of it is not nearly as nice as we would like.  As I have mentioned before, I have a friend who runs the local battered women’s shelter – and they set up more than one apartment or rented house every week (over 70 last year) from absolutely nothing.  So we are going to use our registry to get new almost everything, and donate our more gently used stuff.  We have not lived together, and lots of his kitchen stuff is actually wedding gifts from his first marriage, so it will be nice to have new things that are OURS. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I’m also doing a destination wedding this year and sympathize, the registry question can be complicated. In my case, people will already be spending a lot of money to come to my wedding so I don’t want to look like I’m asking for anything more than for them to be there. However, some people won’t be able to come and so yes, for those people it might be nice to have a registry. One way to do it (and this is what I’m probably going to do) is to set up a registry or two but not reference it in the invite or on the wedding website. That way, you can do whatever kind of registry you want AND if people really want to know about the registry, they will ask. Anyway, just a thought. Have fun, DWs are the way to go!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

<span style=”font-size: 12pt; font-family: ‘Times New Roman'”>I totally agree that a honeymoon registry is becoming more popular. We have decided to do it since we will be paying for the entire wedding ourselves. We already have a house and everything we need, so why not have people get you something you really want. I feel as though gifts should be something you want not need, it’s a great time to splurge since you will only do it once. We were worried that some of our more traditional guests would be offended by it so we will set up a small registry so they can go to that if they want. I’m so happy to hear that we aren’t the only ones who think it is a good idea.

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