(Closed) Registry Questions

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

by no means am I a registry expert, but that sounds pretty good to me!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Chrysoberyl:  I registered and linked it to my wedding website and the website is located on the Save the Dates that I sent out. People can find it from there. Though, if anyone askes me in person, I just tell them which stores I’m registered at. Tell your mom, your bridesmaids, and any other ladies you’re close to (that people you’re inviting might ask) so they know where to point people.

As for the twice as many gifts as guests – I was told that (and even told 3 times as many at one store). While I understand the theory behind that – you want to give people ample options in all ranges of price points – you also don’t want to be registering for things just for the sake of registering for things (a concept my FI has yet to understand lol). I say register for what you want/need and then leave it at that. if everything gets purchased from your registry (which propbably won’t happen), you can decide to either add more as the number of available gifts dwindle, or leave it. I know personally, if I go on a registry and there’s nothing left I want to buy, I give cash.

Good luck and congrats!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Chrysoberyl:  Register for things you want.  Don’t register for things you do not want.  I had quite a few guests who gave money, even though there were numerous things still on my registry.  Others gave GCs, which are useful for purchasing an expensive item (I used mine for a dyson vacuum).  For the most part, guests want to give a gift you will actually enjoy.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Chrysoberyl:  I’m not an expert either. However, I agree with @lizzypoo96: that your registry sounds perfect, too.  Each person will not be giving you a gift, since there likely will be a number of couples and possibly families who will be attending. 

I wouldn’t register for anything that you do not want, but I think it’s OK to register for some expensive things that people may want to go in on together or that you and your FH can purchase for yourself at a registry-completion discount after your wedding.

By the way, etiquette experts seem to agree that it IS OK for you to have a link your registries somewhere on your wedding website, since guests proactively  would have to decide to visit your site to find your registries.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Chrysoberyl:  Ah lol – I agree the whole thing is rather silly. Create an online wish list with the sole purpose of people buying you stuff, but it has to be kept top secret too Smile

Oh well – gotta appease the etiquette gods after all haha

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Chrysoberyl:  I married in 2009, so things may have changed since then.  However, Macy’s; Bed, Bath & Beyond; and Williams-Sonoma all offered couples financial incentives to purchase unfulfilled registry items for a period of time after the wedding.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Chrysoberyl:  What you have is fine.

We had a small registry that we didn’t advertise. People who wanted to know if we had a registry asked or found it on their own (it’s really not that hard) and those who didn’t gave us a gift of their own choosing. Some gave cash, some gave a gift.

Getting a gift a guest selected themselves really is not not the tragic horror so many people make it out to be.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@tigergrrl2008:  What is so silly about not gift grubbing?  

These threads always remind me of those commercials for some sketchy labor saving devise where they portray a simple task as soooooo much harder and more dramatic and complicated than it actually is. Like draining spaghetti or boiling an egg. 

Really – people asking or looking to find out where you are registered is not hard, it’s not complicated, it doesn’t burden or inconvenience anyone. They will do it if they want the information without bridal couples shoving it in their faces because they’re so terrified they might get a gift they didn’t specifically choose for themselves.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Chrysoberyl:  Macy’s does this. You get a gift card based off the dollar amount spent on items purchased from your registry.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Chrysoberyl:   Shoving registry information at people who have expressed no interest in having it is gift grubbing.  It communicates your expectation of a gift loud and clear.

If  everyone “knows” you have a registry, they can very easily ask where it is or look it up.  Even people in other countries have phones, email and the internet. Asking or looking it up is not a burden on people. 

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