Post # 1
My wedding is due to take place on Oct 23rd, a short 27 days away!! I keep being asked if i’ve started a “new” registry since my couples shower in August. When I said I wouldn’t be starting another, it wasn’t received well and I was urged to register somewhere more ‘fancy’. I was sort of offended by this and haven’t known how to take it. FI and I aren’t fancy!! We registered at Kohls for this reason and because it carried cooking products we’ve been very fond of. I keep feeling pressure to register somewhere else when my shower is over. I mean, I know people go back to the registy for wedding gift ideas but I mean, start a new one at a new store?? Why? No one will know where it is right? Also, I cannot stress enough that we aren’t williams sonoma or even Macy’s china people.
So today I got another call saying family members are inquiring about what FI would like that is “special” and what the updated registry info is. I don’t know how many times I’ve said there wouldn’t be a new registry and the unpurchased items on our current listing are special enough.
Opinions please?! What do I do?
Post # 3
I’d say stick to your guns. Put the stuff you actually want/need/like on your registry. Just make sure that there’s still enough stuff on there (which is a slightly different issue, but important!).
Post # 4
Is it typical in your area that most guests will bring a physical present to the wedding (not money)? If so, if it were me, I’d want to register more extensively so I at least get a say in what gifts are given. Otherwise you may end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t exactly want or like.
If people will just give checks once the registry is bought out, that’s another story. I let my registries pretty much get bought out before the wedding because we already have way too many shower gifts for the storage space we currently have, and we’d be happier to get checks at this point.
Post # 5
I say stick to your guns if you actually don’t have your eye on anything “fancy”. However, if you’ve put off putting the kitchen-aid mixer, or china because you didn’t think people would want to get it for you, I would go ahead with a more “upscale” registry, since there’s obviously a demand for it.
We had the same thing where some of our close relatives wanted to get us heirloom/keepsake type things. It’s a nice thought to know that such and such serving dish was given to us by my grandmother at our wedding, or the silverware we use for special occassions is from my parents, and will hopefully be passed down to our kids one day.
But if you really don’t have a desire for those things, stay your ground.
Post # 6
We didn’t register for anything list China or nice silver since I’ll be getting my grandmother’s set. When people ask where our china is registered, I just tell them that we didn’t register for any since we’ll be getting the family set and remind them where we are registered.
Perhaps you could just go back through your Kohl’s registry and update it, if you haven’t already. That way you can tell people that you didn’t start a new one, you just updated your existing one.
Some people just like to give fancy gifts for the wedding, or gifts that will stay “in the family”. If they are set on this, they may buy them anyway…
Post # 7
definitely stick to your original registry…The items you registered for are things you want/need. that should be sufficient for people. we’re not ‘china’ or fancy stuff people either, but as long as you’ve registered for enough stuff there shouldn’t be an issue. if people want to get you something not on your registry, then that’s their choice, and out of your control, but definitely dont do a second registry…its too close to get the info out for just a select few who aren’t happy with your original one. best of luck! and Yay for date twin!!