Post # 1
We registered with Honeyfund, which I think has turned people off due to the fee deducted from the gift (for example, a $50 gift becomes $48 and change for the couple) and maybe even the fact that people think that we’re asking them to fund our honeymoon — so I foresee a lot of cash and check gifts the day of the wedding. (Not that we’re complaining about that one bit!)
We also registered with Macy’s for some tangible items, like upgraded dinnerware/serveware, everyday glassware, and towels. Now I’m thinking, though, that our items are too expensive because we haven’t received a lot of them — for example, one four-piece place setting retails for $172, one cereal bowl is around $40, and one towel is $40.
I just don’t want for people to perceive us as snobs because we registered for pricier items — the way we see it, they’re things that we’ll use for years and years.
Post # 3
@leenh78: We have got hardly any actual gifts off our registry so far. But we have got some cheques and lots of vouchers for the store. I think people like to see what it is we will be getting with their money but think that it will be easier for us if they just give us cash or vouchers so that we can pick out what we want/need most.
I doubt anyone really thinks you are awfal for choosing a really nice dinner service, at least I hope not…because that is what we have done!
Post # 4
@leenh78: I am going to give you the advice that my friends and FMIL gave me, don’t feel bad about putting $$ items on the registry bc what will most likely happen, people will chip in on a gift.
FOr example, I had a food processor/blender on my registry that was $180, two of my girlfriends went in on it together.
Post # 5
I do think you should have some cheaper items, like a spatula, or whisk for those who don’t have a lot to spend for a shower item. But we had lots of more expensive gifts on our registry. It also depends on your group though, our group is middle class families, and established working professionals.
I agree with you about people being turned off by registering for cash, and the service fee. They probably are. I would be.
Post # 6
@leenh78: I think your hunch is right and you’ll probably recieve cash/giftcards at your wedding. When I see a registry with a few $200+ items and then a bunch of ~$20 items, I tend to just give a $100 gift card to the store.
About the honeyfund: I dislike them, and they’re uncommon in my circle. Again, your guests probably don’t see the point of contributing on there when they can give you cash or cheque as a wedding gift. I think honeyfunds make more sense in areas where giving cash at a wedding is not the norm.
Post # 7
@leenh78: I hope that you’re right and the people who are turned off are going to give you cash at the wedding as opposed to nothing (which is what I would do). It is important to have items at varying price ranges. Just because you will use something forever doesn’t mean everyone can afford to get it for you. It’s not supposed to be a gift grabby event – your guests should feel welcome and not put out over attending your wedding.
Post # 8
@leenh78: A lot of people dont buy gifts until the week of the wedding and even for a few weeks after it. Our wedding is in March and we’re still receiving gifts.
Post # 9
Is there anything that you can add that’s a bit cheaper? We had expensive items as well but we also had tons of items under $20.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I went to a wedding where the bride & groom were registered similarly and they ended up getting most of what they asked for in the end. I did feel kind of bad though at the time I was in grad school and really couldn’t afford a lot of what they were asking for and felt silly buying them one bowl for $75 or something along those lines. I ended up going with my mother to the bridal shower so we gave a gift together and at the wedding I just gave a gift card. Most people will make it work or just give what they can.
Post # 11
@Daizy914: Yeah, I got that advice, too. We registered for a few large items ($100 knife set/knife block, $160 vacuum, $300 memory foam mattress, $500 tv that we just wanted the completion discount on, and a couple of other things over $100), but we only got the knives and the vacuum. None of the people who advised me to register for big stuff (and they meant like, appliances) went in on anything.
We got maybe 1/3 of the stuff off of our registry. We did end up with some cash/gift cards, as well, so I guess it really depends on your guests? We also got a number of things that we did not register for/do not need/want, which sucks.
Post # 12
Our guests are mainly middle-class, working professionals, but there are a few who have money issues. I just hope the latter folks aren’t thinking “are you freaking kidding me?” when they see our registry, but it sounds like I shouldn’t worry about it. Thanks, all!
Post # 13
@leenh78: if someone wants to spend $100. they will spend $100 regardless of what the gift is. if you have $40 towels. maybe they will buy you 2 towels and a wash cloth or just the 2 towels. or just give you a gift card. don’t worry about what you registered for. if you have a $500 item. maybe 5 people will throw in money and get that for you. or you will use all the gift cards you get and buy that item.
Post # 14
@leenh78: The vast majority of items from our registry were bought within 4 days of our wedding. (I had no shower).
I had a really big selectionof items in the <$50, and $50-$100 range, and a bunch of more expensive items (our setting is also about the same as yours, and we only got one place setting, but that’s fine. We plan to keep adding to it throughout our lives).
Also, keep in mind your registry generally stays active for a year after the wedding, and people will take advantage of it for christmas, birthday and anniversary gifts.