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I'm just curious...what was the thought process behind registering for "filler," which I'm assuming means stuff you didn't really want in the first place?
By filler I guess I just mean stuff that I thought would potentially be useful to us but not the items that I was SUPER excited about receiving. If that makes sense..
I am sure you can return it if you want to, but I don't understand the concept of registering for things you don't want. I would think that you would register for only things that you wanted and could use and be happy with whatever your guests decide to purchase for you.
I really don't think I registered for anything I definitely did not want or didn't think I'd use. I guess I'm just having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that my favorite things aren't the things that are being purchased....
Can you exchange the 'filler' stuff for your favorite things?
I guess that's my question... Is it okay to exchange one gift that was purchased off my registry for another gift on my registry that I would enjoy a lot more? I feel strange returning or exchanging anything off the registry because I should like it enough to keep it if I registered for it, right? lol I'm so confused.
Many people buy things at the last minute, so you may still get the things you really wanted.
First, give it some time. Many people don't buy gifts until the day of the party. Second, people are drawn to what interests them on the registry or what they know to be a nice item to have. You may not have the same inclinations they do. That's what the monetary gifts can be used for!
I don't know... the way I see it-- they bought it for you because they thought you wanted it. If they knew you would prefer something else, they probably would have bought that for you instead, so I don't really see a huge issue with exchanging the items. But that's just me.
I think when I buy something off a registry, I pick something that fits in my budget and something closest to what I'd buy if I didn't have a registry to choose from. But I wouldn't care if you exchanged it, because it's not something I put a whole lot of thought and effort into (like Christmas/ birthday presents-- those are really personal to me). I just sort of pick whatever off the registry and go with it. So it wouldn't bother me in the least if you exchanged it. Does that make sense?
Jenni, that makes a lot of sense! I am the kind of person who NEVER returns or exchanges personal gifts that people give me (even if it is a gift that I really don't like and would never use). My closet is full of ugly sweaters that my mother has purchased for me over the years. I can never find it in me to admit to her that I dislike them... so I let them hang in my closet with the tags on them for a few years and then finally donate them to needy families after I feel like they've "hung around" long enough. I guess that's probably the root of my uncomfortability with the idea of returning or exchanging any of the wedding gifts that I registered for. I'm just not the "returning a gift" type of person... UNTIL NOW. :)
I'd wait to return. You may end up getting lots of gift cards with which you can buy your more desired items using your completion discount. I kinda had the opposite problem. i registered for some big things, thinking I'd just buy them later. I was hoping to get lots of the "filler" items. Well, I had to go back and buy those myself after! But, since I had gift cards and a completion discount, I got a better deal.
Good advice to wait and see what else will be purchased... My FAVORITE registry item (my kitchen aid mixer) was just purchased today! I really didn't think someone was going to splurge for that, let alone purchase it as a shower gift! Needless to say, I'm feeling a little better about my registry tonight. :)
i would wait until after the wedding to worry about it. people still have a lot of gift buying to do!
i agree that you shouldnt really think about returning anything yet, until the wedding is over, people may still buy the gifts you really wanted. i do think that by registering for items that u didnt really want you have defeated the whole purpose of having a registry in the first place
I worked at Crate and Barrel in college and it was *really* common for newlyweds to come in with thousands of dollars in returns to exchange for the items they wanted more or whatever. Many of the boxes hadn't even been opened yet. It happened so frequently that the employees had a system that would help make those sorts of transactions more efficent. Also, I can't attest for other stores, but I know C&B has a very liberal return policy with regard to registries as well. My advice to you is to not lose the gift reciept! That will make your life much easier, but, as others are encouraging you to do, wait until after your wedding to make any changes because you still may get the items you want, and need the filler items for people who buy you gifts last-minute, and you don't want to offend you shower attendants who might see when they go to purchase your wedding gift that instead of being marked "filled" their selection has been deleted completely.
bells, I think you missed the post where I said I didn't really register for anything I did not want... I just want some things a whole heck of a lot more than some of the other things, so when I saw my favorite items all going unpurchased I got a little discouraged. I think if I kept it to just my favorite things there wouldn't be enough things on my registry for people to choose from.
MissHobbit, glad to know it's so common!
I'd wait until after the wedding is over to start returning things. At that point, you can take stock of everything you've received and think about what you really need/want to keep. I'll be honest: Mr. B and I returned a LOT of our presents...not because we didn't want the items, but because we realized that we didn't have the space in our apartment once we brought everything over!
absolutely! I would wait until after the wedding for sure but... Return or exchange as much as you like! ESPECIALLY if those gifters will never come to your house. I see no problem with it. They purchased what they thought you chose but you can change your mind. I did with many items and nobody was the wiser.
Sure - definitely return/exchange if you don't get the items you really want. Even if people do come to your house, I doubt they will look for the spatula or muffin tins they gave you. Honestly, after a while I really don't even remember what I got people from their registry.
Just remember that you may recieve items at your shower that you DID register for but were not taken off the list... For example, I just went to a friends bridal shower and all of us BM's purchased the Dicon she wanted at another store (since she kept checking her registry list to see if anyone purchased it) lol... we were sneaky! ;)
So just wait and see what you get, you may be surprised!!
I'd only return what you actually plan on not using. I kind of get the impression you want to return all the cheap items for the more expensive ones that you are more psyched about. But I bet you'll get a lot of use out of those "filler" items versus your expensive ones. People typically register for less expensive items to fill the budget needs of guests who can't afford $200 on gifts. But i don't understand registering for gifts if you just plan on returning them.....register for what you actually need and will use. Or, adjust your registry accordingly. Even if some of the other things are more "exciting", i hate to break it to you, but "boring" things are awfully practical! Wait and see what you actually use--if you don't actually use it, that's one thing. Heck, I got a vegetable peeler and i was like, "a veggie peeler? what?" and my friend's wife said it was the BEST one ever. And she was right. It is SUPER awesome. I was never gifted my kitchen aide stand mixer (psh, way too much money for everybody i know) but i ended up buying it with some Lowes Gift Cards we got, plus they BEAT Macy's price, plus our military discount, which brough it down to a sinfully cheap price.
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As my shower approaches, I have been stalking my registries and am a little surprised by the items that people have chosen to purchase. The things I thought would go first are still on there and the "filler" items are being scooped up quickly. As a result, I'm starting to regret many of the items I've put on my registry. I was pretty clueless when it came to doing a registry and asked a few different people for advice about it, but was never really given any good advice or direction in the end. I guess I'm paying the price now...
So my question really is this: Is it rude to consider returning or exchanging a gift item if someone has purchased it for you off your registry? I wouldn't actually tell the person that I was thinking of returning or exchanging their gift.. And seeing as many of our guests are out of towners that do not visit our home regularly (if EVER) so it's not like they would notice that we do not use (or no longer actually have) the item they gifted us. Can anyone relate? Or am I a bad person for wanting to return/exchange many of my gifts?