Post # 1
Good morning/afternoon bees!
After speaking to both sets of parents, they are predicting their guests will gift us with cash for our wedding.
Now, is it common for people to give from a registry? I’ve always given cash in my social circle for wedding gifts. I’ve also gone to showers where gift registry info was provided or there was a gift theme. In those cases i’d buy from the registry or buy a gift going with the theme.
I guess what I’m asking is are people expecting me to have a gift registry? And what are people in the 20-30 age group giving their friends for gifts, if anything?
Post # 3
It’s not required, but if you wanted to just give some guidance to someone who didn’t want to give money, but give something, a small registry at a common store (BBB, Target, etc) with things that you would want or need isn’t a bad idea. The worst that could happen is no one buys from it, and you get 10% off after your wedding date.
Post # 4
Most people want some guidance. Register at BBB. From what I remember, they give you cash back if you return something.
Post # 5
Registries are very common so I imagine a lot of people will expect it. You don’t have to register, but I think it’s a good idea to register for at least a few things because there will always be people who prefer (and will) get you a physical gift.
As far as what people will give, it will depend a lot on your circle. But for ours, 1/3 of our guests in the 20-30 age group gave us physical gifts and the rest gave us cash or gift cards.
Post # 6
I’m in my late 20s and personally I feel weird giving my friends a cash gift mostly because I can only afford to spend $100 or so (between me and my FI). Also giving cash just seems to me like a gift people get from older adults. So I really prefer having an option to buy a gift off the registry, something I know they will like and use. Obviously they still know how much I spent but the dollar amount feels less blatant.
I don’t want to discourage cash gifts by having a huge registry, so I am just trying to keep it to things we really want and need. I still have a fair amount on there but I am thinking a lot of it will be gone after my shower. That would be what I would suggest you do as well.
Post # 7
@MmeVT: This. We have a medium-sized registry with lots of little stuff, but I would feel so weird getting cash/checks from people our age.
Post # 8
I was asked so many times where I was registered – I think you should at least have a small registry to give people ideas.
You asked what people in their 20s are giving for gifts these days – I can tell you that my friends (in their 20s) gave us anywhere from $50 to $500 – most had travel, including flights and hotel as well.
Post # 9
I think most people expect some type of registry. If you don’t make one be prepared to receive all kinds of crazy things. If someone is going to spend the money on you at least it should be on something you’ll like or use…
Post # 10
I think you should have at least a small one. The people who want to give cash still will give cash, but at least the people who are die-hard actual gift givers have a pre-approved list to choose from. You don’t want to end up with 17 blenders or something stupid!
Post # 11
I agree that you should register somewhere. Otherwise, you’re likely to end up with a ton of picture frames and vases. If you’re registered, at least you’ll get items that you like and can hopefully use. Plus, it makes it easy on guests who don’t want to give cash because they can literally order a gift off of your registry and have it shipped directly to your home.