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  • poll: Should I tell guests to wait for sales?
    Yes, put a mention on the Web site : (0 votes)
    No, don't mention it : (12 votes)
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    Don't mention it on the site, but spread the word through bridal party and family : (28 votes)
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    fifisweet    Sept. 26, 2009   Las Vegas/Maine

    I registered at a major department store because I knew I could give guests options in a variety of price ranges and departments. But the store (Macy’s) often has sales on items on our registry. From week to week the toaster or coffee maker we’ve registered for can fluctuate in price from $70 to $120, for example. Some days our luggage is 50 percent off - other days it's not.

    Is it rude to mention this fact on the registry page of our wedding Web site, and urge guests to consider waiting until the item they’d like to purchase goes on sale? I’d hate for them to spend full price! But I felt guilty enough putting up the registry information on the site in the first place, let alone expanding upon that information.

    But really, I only have the best interests of our guests at heart. If they're generous enough to get us a gift, I don't want them to break the bank doing it! Advice?

     

    Thanks,

    Miss Lobster

     
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    MissStellar    May 2, 2009   MI

    I don;t think it's rude to mention it, but you could do it in a very classy way. Either on the page with the registry stuff add something like, "If you choose to purchase the happy couple a gift, there are regular sales going on, and they prefer you don't dip too deeply into your pocket book"
    Or something equally as cute and simple. Or, just spread the word through family and the bridal party. I bet most people would greatly appreciate it, while there may be a few who get offended.

     
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    1983jlt    11/07/09   Chicago

    I wouldn't worry about it.  Personally, when I know I have to get a wedding gift for a friend or relative, I just go and get it from the registry, regarldess of whether or not it's on sale.  I don't think I'd see it that way, but it could come across that you're trying to get more stuff (i.e. "wait till my stuff's on sale, that way you can buy me the coffe pot AND the toaster oven instead of just one or the other".)  This wedding stuff's tricky!!

     
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    grumpybear722    January 13, 1992  

    We registered at Bed Bath & Beyond and about every week we get a 20% off coupon from them. I'd love to ask our guests to wait for a sale (or even include a coupon with the invitation [I know it's "bad etiquette" to send registry cards with the invitation, but we're not making a website just for that] but I know it's incredibly "gift grabby"). I'm sure some people will figure it out themselves (I'll be using a coupon for a friend's wedding gift LOL). :)

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    I don't think you need to mention it.  Most people are sale-wise at stores like Macy's and BBB so will figure it out on their own.  If you do mention it, it may seem a little gift-grabby. 

     
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    emileee       San Jose, CA

    I think it's pretty common knowledge that big dept stores have sales all the time so I wouldn't worry about alerting the guests to the sale.  It's just odd to bring up without looking gift grabby! 

     
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    alshv2    6/6/2009   St. Louis

    Although I know you are just trying to make things easier on your guests, I second grumpybear- most people will probably figure it out on their own. Macy's is particularly notorious for having huge fluctuations in price, and I would think most people are aware of that. If cost matters to them, most people will probably wait until a sale for the item they want to purchase for you, or buy whatever is within their price range at the time they want to go shopping.

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    I agree, most people know that Macy's has huge sales. They will figure it out. Spreading the word (for people who may not have Macy's in their part of the country but are buying online) through family/bridal party is also a fine tactic, I think.

     
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    ktdid23    November 7, 2008   Annapolis, MD

    I agree with the PP's... most women wait for sales anyway!  But, if you are worried, just casually mention this to your bridal party/mom.  They'll spread the word!

     
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    sarsk624    9.5.09   Philadelphia

    i just have to second the crazy price fluctuations on Macy's. It drive me a little nuts because when we registered for our down comforter I didn't realize it was on sale. It was $125 I didn't think so bad since then it has gone from there to $300 and back down. Because I'd never ask someone to spend that much on anything. I chose to just send coupons I get from my mom and I figured she could spread the word since I'm pretty sure my surprise shower is coming up. I'd suggest you try something like that. I totally agree with your intentions I'm just not sure how you do it without it offending some stickler for doing things "the right way"

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    I agree with others. Most people know that Macy's is notorious for having sales all the time.  If you are still worried, spread the word through your mother and the bridal party. 

     
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    I think most of your guests will be savvy enough to realize that these stores have regular sales on housewares. Some people (like me) are really budget conscious and already know about the BBB 20% off coupon and watch the circulars for housewares sales if they have an upcoming wedding. Other people can't be bothered to save coupons or watch for sales and just purchase at full price.

    Also, my friends who are already married tell me that typically most guests are procrastinators and do their shopping less than a week before the shower or the wedding. So, you will probably get more of whatever category is on sale the week of your wedding.

    I don't think you should include information about sales. The people who care about that getting a good bargain and saving money are already aware and the people who don't care won't pay attention anyway.

     

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    Anyone who's actually worried about paying full price will wait for the sales.  Everyone else will just buy at regular price.  (People shop for GIFTS the same way they shop for themselves.  Either they are bargain hunters, or they're not.)  Don't worry about it!

     
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    fifisweet    Sept. 26, 2009   Las Vegas/Maine

    Thanks ladies!! You're totally right and have asuaged my fears. Plus, I looked back at the registry and it's really, really obvious which items are on sale - they're in big, red letters. People will figure it out, and the ones who don't will probably hear from my chatty mom. Thanks again!!!

     
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    jennred782    6/20/09   San Jose, CA

    Most people realize that sales are a flutuating thing. We registered at Macys and BBB because Macys has a great selection and sales and BBB is constantly sending out those 20% off coupons. People will realize.

     
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    jennred782    6/20/09   San Jose, CA

    Sorry but it a sales associate tells you that something you are registering for is going on sale next month and that is when your wedding is. Then spread the word because inside info is never bad.

     

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