Registry Vent blaaah

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It doesn’t look like a wall of text to me. There are spaces and paragraphs!

We had a pretty good experience with John Lewis except for a few items going out of stock that we weren’t told about until they were already all gone. It lead to a lot of annyoing last minute registry changes. Otherwise they were great with communication, and it seems they are with you too. It’s very kind of them to post it first class so that it still arrives within the original dates given; albeit at the tail end.

I’d just suck it up and pay the postage. Otherwise wait until June when you see people, as long as it’s still in time for the wedding. Do your parents see more people than you, and sooner? You could always send them a little package with a bunch of invitations that they could hand around, assuming it’s cheaper to post them a package than pay for all the stamps.

It does sound annoying, but it could have been worse and you could have been waiting way longer on the inserts. It will get done, just not how you want, I know.

Post # 4
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

chronicwhimsy:  We had a great experience with John Lewis too (and they are really good if you take stuff back, just replace it with vouchers….we have taken back half the stuff we were gifted!).

When the registry cards came though we thought they were really boring, and just included the registry information in our pack, leaving the cards out completely….but I presume its too late for you to add if your invitations are otherwise ready to go.

Hopefully the post will arrive quickly for you (could you give out the invitations to these people and leave the registry info with your parents to pass on? Then put them in with the others that you are posting later?)

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Are you having a website? You can list registry info there and skip the cards. In general, at least in the US it’s considered a big etiquette horror to put registry info in the invite itself. Just something to consider!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

chronicwhimsy:  The store did you a favor.  Those registry cards are very rude and in extremely poor taste.  If people want to know if you’re registered, they’ll ask or look it up themselves.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

chronicwhimsy:  Something being commonplace does not make it polite.  Registry cards in invitations are rude  and make it very obvious a gift is expected.  there’s nothing mannerly or gracious about that.

Store’s provide those cards because they want people to buy stuff from them, period.  It’s never a good idea to take your etiquette cues from retailers. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

chronicwhimsy:  interesting! here there would be pearl clutching and snarking aplenty lol. 

The regional US differences get interesting too- in the South where my fam is from its all about the registry or housewares but money gifts are tacky and in poor taste unless it’s from your immediate family.

my groom is an 100% Italian New Yorker- and they are all about the envelope of cash. It’s rude not to bring cash! I have to warn my southern belle mother but hey, I’m not gonna complain about $$$ !

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

chronicwhimsy:  Registry cards are not a “cultural norm,” – they are a calculated marketing ploy by retailers.  

The go to rationalization for brides wanting to do rude things is that it’s “cultural” or “regional” when it’s not.  At all.  A rude thing may become commonplace through repitition but repetition does not whitewash a rude thing into being polite.  

The fact that registry cards inclusion in invitations is commonplace does not make them magically polite.  The entire concept is rude and in poor taste.

However, its clear you are decided so there is no point in us debating further. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Zhabeego:  Goodness gracious. Other people can do things differently than you — and that doesn’t make them an ass.

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