Post # 1
So, my bridal shower is this Saturday.
I decided to spy on my registry stuff today (yes, I know i shouldn’t have looked.) Anyway, I was a bit dissappointed that not more of my registry stuff has been selected.
Before I go on, don’t attack me. I’m just posting this here because I wouldn’t dare share this with anyone else because of how terrible I’d come across!!!
I shouldn’t have looked. I shouldn’t be greedy. I totally am looking forward to this on Saturday, don’t get me wrong! It will be great to see friends and family I haven’t seen in a really long time.
I followed all the rules in the book, registering different places, with different price points… there really seemed to be something for everyone. Its just frustrating for me, I guess because a few people actually said to me, "Do you REALLY want stuff from your registry? Sometimes, I like to get a bit more creative…"
Well, how was I supposed to answer that? My response was "Oh, how nice! I’m sure I’ll love it, whatever it is you had in mind." Truth is, I’m sure I won’t! lol. I honestly needed stuff from my registry, since this will be my first apartment with FI! (Yes, we’re not living together yet, but that’s an entirely different story).
I realize how bad I sound, but I just had to get it out somewhere. Is this just me? Was anyone else dissappointed that they didn’t get much from their registry? Did you just end up buying some of it for yourself?
Post # 3
I think it is important to know a few things about wedding registries:
- Many people don’t purchase gifts until 1-2 weeks before the event, often the day before (I am notorious for that), and your wedding isn’t until August.
- Some people are anti-registry. Be grateful for that because already knowing what you are going to get is kind of boring. Those heart-felt and hand-picked gifts can be very special and you will never forget them or the people who give them.
- Some people will just give you cold hard cash and that is way better than a registry gift!
Just give it some more time!
Post # 4
I totally agree with Niki. I used to work at Macys in the bridal registry and we would get people who were buying the gift on the way to the event! Happened all the time. But I also feel that this is a time where people like to regift something they got for their wedding. There were many times where a couple would come in to return something because it wasn’t on their registry and while it would be from Macy’s it would also be 2-3 years old!
I would give it some time and not worry about it. And depending on where you registered you can get discounts on the items left on your registry after your wedding.
Post # 5
Don’t feel bad- I obsessively stalked ours in the weeks leading up to the shower.
i think the other commenters are right- you may be surprised w/ the things you end up receiving! I also think it’s definitely a possibility you’ll notice items purchased the very same day as your event!
I think most people provide gift receipts these days, so don’t feel too badly about returning something if it’s not your style. IMO, it’s better that you return it and get something you like than keep it and hate it.
Post # 6
I agree with other posters (and checked my registry up until 5 days before when one of my BM’s made me stop). Over half the items I received were purchased in those last 5 days. I did receive a few items off the registry but it was still stuff I needed (towels in the color I wanted, just purchased somewhere else, frames, etc). I do personally think you should stop looking at your registry, as hard as it is, because you will get some true excitement the day of your shower. My excitement was seeing who the gifts were from that I already knew about and then opening gifts I had no idea I was getting 🙂
Post # 7
I just had my first shower this past weekend, and I was curious, so I looked too! I got mostly things from my registry, and I know that people went and purchased them the day of the event! So don’t worry about it. Just think, do you normally buy gifts 1-2 weeks out? I know I don’t! 🙂 I’m too much of a procrastinator. Have fun at your shower!
Post # 8
Oh, thanks ladies. You are all helping me feel more optimistic (and not like a fool for posting this!).
I’ll let you know how it turns out!
Post # 9
Registry stalking is fun and frustrating! I was so excited to see the first gift bought, but then I found myself afraid to look at it because I want the gifts to be a surprise (even if I did pick them all…). My shower weekend was one of the happiest times ever (second to getting engaged of course) — hope you have a fabulous time!
Post # 10
So, I just wanted to update in case anyone was curious… out of the 40 guests there, I received about 34 things off of my registry. No, not everyone got me something from the registry, but some people gave multiple gifts. So, that’s pretty good. Almost one item a person is what it comes out to be… and yes, a lot of people got their stuff on Friday and Saturday.
It was really great to see everyone too!!!