Post # 1
This is a rant since I can’t do anything about it now!
Apparently our guests can’t seem to figure out our registry information. I included a link to our website on our directions/additional information card in our invite suite. I’m all for etiquette! Unfortunately, only one person has knowingly, intentionally visited my website and about five people have already asked me about registry information or about various random things related to measurements (e.g. our bed) or possible monograms/personalization (e.g. if I’m taking his name or not post-wedding).
I’m not a gift grabber by any means so it’s not that I’m bummed I’m not getting my registry gifts (which we can easily afford on our own anyway) but I AM bummed at the prospect of possibly getting a bunch of random things we don’t know what to do with. We’re mentally preparing ourselves for like seven monogrammed decanters and four stock pots.
Oh, and I’m not having a bridal shower so there’s no convenient way of letting people know we have registries unless they specifically ask.
Post # 3
That’s something I don’t understand about the whole…”the first rule of registering is that you don’t mention registering!” rule. How do people know you’ve registered?
Post # 4
I had this problem too but then about a week before the wedding it was like everyone suddenly figured out the website and found the registry there. I think they just never bothered to look and then when it got closer they dug out the invitation again and noticed it. Who knows..
Post # 5
@scadadle15: Oh phew! Good to know. Fingers crossed that people are procrastinating and will think to look through the invitation suite rather than shopping early and buying something random.
Post # 6
We’re having people RSVP on our wedding website, so lots of them found the registry info through it. When I go to a wedding, unless it’s a close friend, I tend not to look at the website (except if I don’t know where they’re registered). Maybe you can have your mom and close family members spread the registry news? And if you don’t want monogrammed gifts, maybe you could pretend that you don’t like the initials that your monogram make? Or say that you’re not sure if you’ll be taking his name or not, so people would feel like they can’t get anything monogrammed one way or the other?
I hope that they look at your registry! It’s been fun to stalk our registry and try to guess who bought what stuff 😛
Post # 7
@likelimeade: Yes, we’ve had our families spread the word, but the majority of our guests are not familiar with our families. Actually, I think we have way way way more in the way of friends than family. Yes, I agree registry stalking is awesome! We had one purchase made by a couple who couldn’t attend and it was quite exciting. The times when we found out something awesome is now OOS online and in limited quantities in store, however, has definitely been a downer!
Post # 8
@peachacid: I’ve always thought the same thing. All the girls on the Knot browbeat this one saying “The bridal party and parents just pass the info around by word of mouth/tell about the website.”
I don’t get it – if (again, according to the Knot ladies) it is only a bridesmaids job to buy a dress & stand up there on the big day with you..how is it also okay to make them the messengers of your registry information (because…you know….they know everyone coming to the wedding…).
I wasn’t appear my parent’s had a job to do at the wedding as well just because it is “extremely rude” to let people know where we’ve registered so that if they are benevolent to bring a gift…they don’t have to scrounge around to find out registry info, make additional calls to parents/BP members they may not know. I thought it was my job as host to make ALL of my guests (parents and bridesmaids included) have a great time unlabored by “jobs” dictated by etiquette.
Phew! /end rant