Post # 1
We have been together just gone 6 years, and we want to be married already. We plan on moving into our own place in December and we also plan on getting married in December.
Our anniversary is 29th August 2006. We planned to elope to the Cook Islands Aug 2013. However, I want to bring in the new year, with a new husband, new name, new passport, new place and start our lives together.
Is it wrong to explain to our ‘guests’ that the registry office is just the legality side of things? We will be doing the big ‘shebang’ in August next year in the Cook Islands with just us and a photographer and big beautiful dress?
If we waited until August next year then we have to be in the CIs for 4 days before we can get married there (costing us) and then have our honeymoon (still costing).
My mother is ill and won’t be able to attend. My father passed away and I don’t really have any other family that I wish to bother going out of my way for to make it seem like we are still connected in any sort of way. I just want a husband, but I also am sick of the ‘you’ll regret its’ I keep getting my fiances family. If we didn’t need witnesses then I don’t think they would be there either.
Post # 3
I don’t understand your post. Is “Registry Office” the place where you get legally married by a government official?
How does that tie into the Cook Islands idea? And you didn’t explain the restaurant part.
Post # 4
It kind of seems like you’re trying to have your cake and eat it too. You either get married during 2012 with family & friends, or you get married in the Cook Islands next August.
Why don’t you do your registry office wedding and restaurant celebration like you’re planning, and then take the Cook Islands trip as a delayed honeymoon/anniversary celebration next summer? You could certainly bring your gown and get some professional pictures on the trip.
Post # 5
I am thinking the registry office is the legal marriage part.
How about having a celebration party or anniversary party later on? Generally people feel that getting married, then doing the whole wedding over (with the dress, bridesmaids, first dance, cake,etc) is kind of like a show. I do know in Europe that generally you get married legally then have a church/religious wedding with the whole works later. That is normal in some European places, but not generally in the US.
I think as long as people know you already are married when you through your shebang, and don’t hide the legal fact, then that is good. However, it might feel a little after the fact I think. That’s why I suggested an anniversary or celebration party, rather than a vow renewal reception.
I do feel you get one big day, so make it everything you want (within your power) for your one big day.
Post # 6
@the boss of you:
I am from Australia so Registry office is basically what I believe in the US you call the ‘court house’?
@KCKnd2: I see what your saying with that. If we are going to do it, do it big or small but don’t do it again. Thank you, has given me something to think about.
@sienna76: We can’t afford the type of wedding we would like now but we want to be married. So I suppose we will wait for any other type of wedding related ceremony like a 5 year wedding anniversary to do a ‘proper’ white wedding.
Post # 7
There is nothing wrong with having a registry wedding with family and friends and a restaurant reception/dinner following and then having a vow renewal in the CI’s with just you and your husband.
Post # 8
How does your family/friends feel if you did a white wedding 5 years later?