Post # 1
So I lost my virginity when I was 16 – to a very nice boy – who was 19 – who I had just met (as in that day), he was very kind and considerate – there was nothing wrong with it – it was nothing FANTASTIC but compared to what some go through it was nice.
I don’t really regret it – but it makes me sad that I didn’t lose it to someone really special – I don’t mind not losing it to my FI – but giving it to some practical stranger I do regret – In fact I even lied to my first boyfriend and tried to convince myself that I was still a virgin – and when I smell the deodorant he used – I still feel sick –
anyone else experienced anything similar ??
Post # 3
Why does it make you sad that you didn’t lose your virginity to someone really special? If this theoretical special person would not be in your life right now anyway, it doesn’t really make a difference. Then again, I’ve never been one to put virginity on a pedestal the way some people do.
Post # 4
@Angela83: Well I don’t rate virginity that highly either – and it is just a theoretical special someone – I just wish It’d gone to someone who I really cared about.
Post # 5
Well, I’m sorry you feel this way 🙁
Just try to focus on the present .. . now you are intimate with someone you really care about… that’s what really matters!
Post # 6
hmm…I’m sorry you regret the way you lost it but ya know what? Let’s say you DID lose it to someone you were dating, and it wasn’t your Fi, would you still regret it?
For instance, I lost mine to my first serious bf, who was also my first kiss. At the time I felt exactly how you feel, i did NOT want to give just anyone something that was sacred to me (and yes, pretty important, for Petes sake i waited til i was 16 to even kiss a guy, then 5 months later had sex for the first time) as I did not want to regret anything. Ya know what? I wish I never did. He turned out to be a huge jerk, liar, cheater and emotionally abusive. He would tell me all the time he wished I was as small as an ex gf. I was only 5 lbs more than her!
My point is, we have no way of knowing how things would have turned out had we did them differently. I’m sorry if this isn’t helping, I’m just trying to maybe get ya to look at it from all sides, the grass isn’t always greener!
Post # 7
I was 15 when I lost my virginity to a serious boyfriend. We ended up being together for 6 years, but not after going through all sorts of abuse. Verbal, physical, if it’s abusive, he did it to me.
Do I regret it? No. You can’t live life regretting things that happened it the past, it makes you a better, stronger person. You can’t tell the future and especially when you’re a young teenager losing your virginity, its rare you will stay with that person for the rest of your life.
Post # 8
I think losing your virginity is way overhyped. It hurts, no one has any clue what is going on. it’s just a lame experience in general – I wouldn’t beat myself up over it. We have all these books and movies that make us think (as teenagers) that there are supposed to be flowers on the bed and, blue birds flying around, and rainbows outside, and that everybody has orgasams the first time.
Post # 9
I wanted to wait until I was married. My first bf knew and when he found some else who would, he ditched me for her. I finally gave my virginity to my second bf who loved me and wanted to marry me. We waited a year to get to that point. God had other plans for him so we never made it to marriage. I was 24 when I made the decision to do so and I’m glad that I waited.