Post # 1
I’ve had some back and forth with a vendor and basically got stressed out and gave up so I let FI take care of the rest of the communication. Luckily, he cc’ed me his reply to the vendor but it was in such a harsh tone! I know he’s pissed but I still think the email was too much. I totally wouldn’t have worded things the way he did. This is why I’m such a Type A! Now I’m sure they think they’re dealing with both a bridezill and groomzilla, lol
Anyone else have regrets about loosening the reign on wedding planning and letting FI be in charge of something? I just needed to vent…
Post # 3
Oh boy — it’s probably just a much needed vent session. But, if you’re planning to spend the rest of your life with this guy, you’d better relax and let him have his place in the wedding… and your family! Not to fall back on an old gender stereotype, but men (and women!) need to feel important and trusted to do certain things themselves. Try and respect and support him just as you would want him to support you if you got mad enough to scold a vendor.
In my situation it was the opposite! I was so mad at a vendor that I gave him a piece of my mind. My fiance let it be… but he told me that strategically speaking, it might be better to approach this vendor in a different way. I thought he handled it very well.
Post # 4
Yup, you’re totally right. This whole letting go thing is definitely still a work in progress.
Post # 5
FH can get really, um, not-so-nice with people when they have given us bad service. At first it really bothered me but now I respect him for it. Whenever I’m not getting anywhere with people I just pass it off to him and he can get results. At this point, he is fully responsible for talking to the cable company, I HATE Comcast.
With regards to wedding stuff, he is getting really good at wording things in a way that leaves them no choice but to do what we want, and yet still feel like they made that decision. You can’t yell at your officiant the way you yell at the cable company people!