Post # 1
FI and I have been engaged for almost 2 months now; however, we picked out the ring almost a year ago. It took him about 10 months to finally propose (long story…)
I am going to preface this by saying I like bling and always wanted a big ring. When we were looking I just was not happy with the diamonds that fit into his price range. Anyways, I had seen some girls do band rings as engagement ring and we found something we both loved and fit in his price range. Now, after wearing the ring for almost 2 months, I am not 100% happy with my choice. It is not the fact that my ring is not a diamond that is bothering me- it’s the fact that it is a band ring.
I still really LOVE my ring. It is sparkly and so pretty. I get a lot of compliments on it, but I always feel a bit off when I tell people it is an engagement ring. FI and I have talked about a wedding band and we discussed having a band for each side of the ring made so that it looks like a set.
Do you think I should say something to him that I want something that looks more like an engagement ring? I can’t help but google rings that are gemstone rings that are more like engagement rings than bands.
For reference this is a pic of my ring:
Post # 3
Why not get a more “engagement ring”-y ring as your wedding band? Most people do a band for the wedding and a ring with a centerstone for the engagement, but you can just switch the two.
ETA: Here are some good options
1) An emerald cut amethyst solitaire (this one is 20 bucks right now on buy.com)
2) A moissanite solitaire (600ish for 1ct)
3) Or my personal favorite, an emerald cut white sapphire (this one is just the picture I would bring in to get it custom made)
Post # 4
I LOVE your ring!! I would totally wear that! I have a really non-traditional ring, too – it’s a raw, uncut diamond in a cube shape. Some people get it, ome don’t. The risk of going with something original and interesting is that it can be polarizing, but I think that is a sign that you’re being original and yourself! There are approximately 80 gazillion diamond solitaires in this world – be proud of your ring!
Post # 5
I know how you feel. I asked my fiance for a pearl ring (and got it!) and while I love it… sometimes I wish I’d asked for something a little more traditional. I’ve gotten comments that it looks like a cocktail ring; and occasianally worry that when I tell someone I’m engaged they’ll ask “Where’s the diamond??” (who would do this? maybe just mean people in my head)
I know it would hurt my FI’s feelings (he designed it himself and put a lot of work into it!) so I would never have the guts to ask for something that looks more like a stereotypical engagement ring. I’m just hoping that in a few years I’ll grow to appreciate its uniqueness and be so confident in my marriage I don’t even care about a silly thing like this.
Sorry if that wasn’t helpful – FWIW, your ring is gorgeous! I love the purple!
Post # 6
If you are truly unhappy with is, why don’t you get an engagement one as your wedding band? Or, just stick with it and upgrade on your anniversary.
Post # 7
I absolutely love your ring. I think it is beautiful! My FI had already bought my ring without asking what I even wanted (thankfully I LOVE it), but I had always thought about a gemstone band. I think it would look strange with an additional center-stone ering-looking ring, so I wouldn’t get a separate center-stone ring. If you are super unhappy with your band and can’t get over the fact that it does not look like a typical ering, just say something to your FI. I’m sure you can exchange rings. I think it is beautiful and unique though!
Post # 8
I think it is absolutely beautiful!!!!!!!!!! I think this is so amazingly different, and I love it. I didn’t want a diamond so I have a sapphire engagement ring. However, you have to wear it for the rest of your life and that’s a big decision. Do you think that your change in heart may be because of people’s reactions?
Post # 9
I”m agreeing with PP’s who suggested a more engagementy style ring for your wedding ring. Then you can wear them together as a set. Or, you could get a coordinated bridal set for the wedding, and switch your e-band to your right hand.
Gemvara has lots of beautiful, coordinated sets in gemstones.
Post # 10
I haven’t gotten my ring yet but I know it’s coming! (trinity ring- no rock- just bands- I want the stacked look with my wedding band)
(we moved, unexpected expenses, yadadaaa, it’s soon!) so I have not had the will power to keep my mouth shut around friends until the official engagement. However, I have already gotten lots of remarks when I show the pics- where is the diamond, there isn’t a solitar? not all the same color gold? (small minds)
In my head- the ring WE picked is perfect. seems you felt that way at first but started letting other opinions sink into your head… remember, it’s easy to do what everyone expects. Be proud of your ring! who says you have to have a big rock?! They look FAKE! just get a band on your wedding day that makes you feel even more unique…
Post # 11
@crayfish: love the octagon band- also had considered that shape for a band