Post # 1
there were many things at our wedding that, when I look back now, wished I had done or done differently. But my BIGGEST regret that I can’t get over is not asking how the indoor ceremony decorations would looked like if we had to move our ceremony from outdoors to indoors if there was rain. Sure enough, it rained on our wedding day and we had to move everything indoors. I made the wrong assumption that the vendor will set up a similar gazebo indoors, but instead, they put up a tacky draping that looked horrible! I cringe when i see the decorations in our wedding pictures. other than that, everything else was great and our reception kicked @$$.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. It totally sucks to feel horrible when you know it overall was an awesome day. My florist used the wrong color flowers and I hated them (still do and it’s been over a year since my wedding). I couldn’t sleep for several weeks after the wedding I was so upset.
Everyone will tell you to just get over it, there is nothing you can do about it. But I think you have every right to be upset. I say, just feel the feelings you are having. In time you will make peace with them. In time it won’t feel so bad. And at some point find some peace with the one small (or big) problem. But finding peace doesn’t mean it won’t still bother you.
One thing I did do, after I gave myself permission to be pissed and upset, is try to focus on all the awesome things I did like about the wedding/reception. Focus on the happy.
Post # 4
Thanks for the advice. Every girl has their dream wedding ceremony as they walk down the aisle. I feel like my ceremony did not match my dreams. Sigh. I really want to move forward but I keep thinking back how dumb I am to not ask the extra questions. It was one of the biggest events of my life and I didn’t do my due diligence and think of all the details.
thanks for agreeing and letting me vent out my feelings. everyone i talk to and even my husband tells me to get over it..but it’s just so hard when i look at our pictures and cringe.
Post # 5
Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel, so you are more than welcome to vent. I think you’ll notice on here that a good number of brides here had something go wrong that bugged them afterwards. The wedding industry hypes up our dream weddings so much that we think it has to be absolutely perfect, but it rarely is. I had a few things about my own wedding that I would have changed, but trust me, as time goes on this is not going to bother you! My two year anniversary is coming up and all I think about are the good things!
Post # 6
my best advice would be to think back several years to weddings you’ve attended. do you really remember what kind of decorations, the music, the centerpieces? most people do not ( especially when they are not in the midst od planning their own wedding). in a few years this will just be a faded memory. if its the worst thing to have happened, consider yourself fortunate!
PS not trying to make light of it, I’m sorry that things didn’t go as planned!
Post # 7
Focus on the good parts… that’s what I try to tell myself too. I have a huge regret too post wedding. I hate hate hate how there isnt a single normal portrait shot of me and my husband, or a shot of us without my bouquet up in front of me covering the details of my dress that I loved so much. I’ve dwelled on it so much about how this or that shot would have been perfect if I just put my damn arm down. I dont like how awkward we look in so many of it posed and wish we’d just done more boring standard shots. The only way I get over it is just to remind myself of the awesome shots we did get.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I hear what you are saying. In due time, I won’t remember. The problem is when I look back at our wedding pictures, then I get reminded of our ceremony. I still cringe when i see them and the other day my husband said it looked ugly. As long as I dont look at the pictures, then i think i will be fine. every girl grows up dreaming about their wedding ceremony…and just hate the feeling I get every time i look at my wedding pictures and see the ugly tacky backdrop of our ceremony.
sorry to vent..this feeling comes and goes, but i have a lot of friends getting married this year and see their beautiful venues and I can’t help to look back and think to myself, maybe I should have went with the other venue, should have planned for an indoor wedding, should have asked the extra questions, should have, could have…i know…
Post # 9
The sharp memory will get less as time goes by and when you do think about it you’ll find it easier to think about / deal with 😉
Post # 11
I understand where you come from with the post wedding issues. We all want a perfect day and for some reason we have not over seen every situation: Rain in this case.
My ceremony had to move inside as well because of the rain *sighs*. There was not a day without rain in that month here, which was very unusual because it was in summer at its best time. I actually didnt mind it then but right after the wedding it bothered a hole lot to see all being tucked up, things ppl left here and there that got into most important pictures of the ceremony. I later on found a simple solution: photoshop. I have the dreadful orange plastic bag Father-In-Law hung on the wall and other unsightful stuffs removed from the pictures. I’m happy with the album now.
What important is that you had a great day and probably you didnt even notice those details that were out of places. It just shows that your mood was over the moon and that what you need to keep to cherish the memories and the way you felt that day, not detail that bother you more after the wedding (from pictures, footages) than on the day.