(Closed) Regretting my bm choices… still.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I personally have an issue with a bridal party who isn’t “there” at least emotionally. Most Bee’s will tell you their only responsibility IS showing up and looking pretty.

At this point it can not be undone. Just let it go and focus on the newlywed joy. 

P.S: Saw you’ve been married for over a year… you’re about to get chewed out by internet strangers so…

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I understand the frustrations about the bachelorette party and the best man issues.  If these people are truly your friends they would respect your decisions and your values.

However, you could not seriously expect your Maid/Matron of Honor to come help the entire month before your wedding.  It is your responsibility to plan the wedding, not hers.  She came down two different weekends to help – that’s awesome!  

Post # 5
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

….you’ve been married over a year.

Post # 6
964 posts
Busy bee

I can see some interesting comments coming your way  Smile

Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

It happened over a year ago. Move on and exert energy on relevant topics.

Post # 8
6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I’m sorry that this has caused you so much pain, but I think that dwelling on it is just making it worse. Do you have something else you can channel this time and energy into?

Post # 10
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I always think that whatever feelings people have are valid, and you’re entitled to feel whatever you feel.  However, sometimes weddings bring out the worst in people.  I really feel like unless you have the skill to build yourself a time machine, you need to just move on.  Whether that means having a long chat with the friends that you feel let you down, or if at this point you aren’t really friends anymore, it’s probably best to address it whatever way you feel you need to, and then move on.

Focus on the fact that you’re happily married, got the venue of your dreams, and all the other things that went well on the day!

Post # 11
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think you need a drink! 😉

Post # 12
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you need to let it go. there is no need to be dwelling on all of this a year later; focus on being happy to be married instead!

Post # 13
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry that your wedding party was not supportive.Congratulations on your marriage

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