Post # 1
Hi bees! I literally just came back from choosing a setting at my jeweler’s and now I’m having some serious second thoughts! But I feel so guilty calling him back and having him basically re-do his whole design since we’re getting it custom made. The good thing is that he said he’s going to create the design on CAD and 3D print out a model for me before he starts making the actual setting just so I can get an idea of what it will look like with the stone. So far we’ve only paid for the loose center stone.
When I was there he showed me a few pictures of rings and I showed him a few of my own. The ones he showed me were all bezel settings and I wasn’t a huge fan since I like to see the side of the stone and I don’t like too much metal showing. He told me he could fix that by adding mico diamonds to the bezel part and at the time I was convinced we could make it work. But now that I’ve googled some images, even with the micro stones, I’m not a huge fan! I’m just now sure what I should do now. Would it be rude to just call him up tomorrow and tell him, nevermind, let’s go with traditional prongs? Or should I just wait and give his design a chance? Especially because I will have a 3D model made BEFORE the actual setting, so no harm done? I just don’t want to seem so diva-ish. HALP!
Oh and if it helps to visualize, my center stone is a 1.81ct rectangular cushion cut. It will have a single halo with a split shank.
This is what I’d like. Traditional prongs (and the first one is the one I don’t want and what he’s showing me)::
Post # 3
It’s your ring that you will have to wear practically every day of your life. Don’t delay call the jeweler!
Post # 4
@syrupNhoney: call him before he starts on it!
Post # 5
Honestly i would tell u go with your gut but images I got from my search were beautiful.
Post # 6
I only seem to love bezels that have milgrain edges. I think it gives the illusion of more diamond details
Post # 7
@syrupNhoney: Dont feel bad about calling the jeweler– much better that you do it now rather than later. Also, I am a HUGE fan of bezels 🙂
Post # 8
@syrupNhoney: Definitely call. He pushed you into a design you don’t want.
Post # 9
I’m not a fan of bezel set diamonds either, to me it looks more like a cocktail ring and I too like to see the sides of my diamond (easier to clean as well).. and to answer your question, ARE YOU KIDDING ME? DO NOT FEEL BAD, with the competitive nature of the jewelry industry, he is HAPPY, OVERJOYED to have you as a customer. Most profit is made on the stone anyway + the fact that you are even considering his feelings automatically makes you an easier customer than likely 95% of the customers he deals with. If he offers the opportunity to make a custom setting, there is going to be PLENTY of back and forth until it’s perfect, that’s the nature of what happens when you go custom…better to tell him now than later!
Post # 10
@syrupNhoney: Also, just curious…why are you going custom? There are so many halo’s out there that look exactly like what you want from the picture you posted…why not find the one you love in person and buy it? Just asking as I’ve seen MANY threads from people who are disappointed with the custom settings they’ve had done (which are not unique settings) and either it doesn’t look like the CAD or they are disappointed for some reason or another.
Post # 11
I personaly Hate bezel settings and nothing would change that. Call your jeweler and tell him it is not what you want. Want you want isnt hard, so there should be no reason for him to push you into a different direction.
Post # 12
I would at least wait to see what the jeweler designs. You may be pleasantly surprised. If you don’t like it, tell him and then ask him to create the design you want. I would at least want to see what he creates though, if it were me
Post # 13
@syrupNhoney: you will not be happy with the one he is designing. you have your mind set on the 2nd and 3rd pic. they are just too different.
call or email him right away and tell him this is what you want. don’t accept him telling you what he is going to do. you are paying him to do what you want.
do you already have your centre diamond? have you considered just looking for a semi mount already done? it is much less expensive to buy a semi mount instead of a custom job. the style that you like is gorgeous and i know that they make that semi mount in all sizes and for different shapes of stones.
good luck. i can’t wait to see the finished product.
Post # 14
Thanks so much, everyone! I think the consensus is that I should call up my jeweler and have a chat before he starts making the model. Boyfriend or Best Friend also pointed out that it would be selfish/a waste of his time to have him create a model and THEN tell him I don’t like it.
I’m just glad I’m not coming off too demanding or wishy-washy!
@puppiekisses: Those are truly beautiful! I think bezeled rings are gorgeous! I tried on many, MANY bezeled rings at other stores.The one I posted was much more extreme, truly. I just think pronged and flush goes better with the character of the stone and my hand.
@soy: @mypinkshoes: Thank you for making me feel much less guilty about changing my mind! And we decided to go with a custom setting because the jeweler is a longtime, close friend of my BF’s, but since he doesn’t specialize in diamond jewelery anymore, he doesn’t have any semi-mount settings. He does take special, custom orders, though. My Boyfriend or Best Friend fell in love with a custom design of his and truly, every picture he showed me of his past orders was stunning. I did visit other jewelers to try on settings since he doesn’t have any in his shop and I honestly felt a little underwhelmed by the selection out there. I also found myself compromising a lot since not too many jewlers carried larger diamond halos (most of the ones I saw were micro pave) or had the setting I wanted in my size. VERY frustrating having a size 3ish finger!
Post # 15
It’s your ring and you can’t let him force you into something you don’t like! If you’re 100% not into it, you might as well call so neither one of you is wasting time on a ring you don’t want.
Post # 16
Call them! Remember, you are paying them to create a ring of your specifications. As long as it’s structurally sound, there’s no reason not to make what YOU want.
If you were paying someone to build you a house and you said “I want the kitchen next to the garage.” and they drew up plans with the kitchen at the other end of the house, would you say “But I want the kitchen next to the garage.”? (I hope so!). Or you order vanilla ice cream because you really hate chocolate ice cream, would you eat it or say “Excuse me, I ordered vanilla and this is chocolate, can I get the vanilla please?”.