(Closed) regristeries – how much is too much

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I consider a registry more of a “wish list.” I put things on there that I probably won’t get but would love if I did and I also put things that are reasonably priced. My registry items range from $4-400. My sister laughed at the $100 tea kettle my fiance put on it. I think you should definitely have a range but you should expect to get everything.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I saw a registry where they had multiple items over $500. I thought it was in poor taste. If you have just one or two big ticket items, I think that is ok. This person also registered for a $200 flat sheet, so I was just turned off in general.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I think having items in the $100 and $200 range is reasonable.  Having said that I do have a couple of higher priced items such as furniture. BUT the reason we did that was because the store that we registered with have a “Registry Completion Program”  –which means after your wedding if certain items are not bought, you can buy it yourself at 10% discount. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@babymakes3:  why is it in poor taste? you’re not forced to buy it or anything.. maybe a close family member would buy it

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s great that you have a nice range for your guests to pick from.

 

The one thing I would tell you about registries is that to never assume anything.  When I created my registries (Target and Macys) I thought the lower items would be purchased.  That ended up not being the case at all.  Some of my guests (family members) consolidated funds and bought me the big ticket items.  I got hardly any smallish items from Target (I really wanted this $7 spatula set.)

 

Also keep in mind that if someone is a late shopper and they see nothing in their price range, they’ll probably just get a gift card or cash.  There’s certainly no rule stating a guest MUST purchase from a registry.  I get sad when I hear that brides feel they have to pad the registry with small-ticket items to make guests happy.  That kind of logic only makes two people unhappy with the gift received.

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jen 42713:  I don’t think that $200 is too much. I’m sure many people have some closer family members that would be willing to spend $200. Some of my aunts and uncles would find that reasonable for a wedding gift for me. If you were asking for a bunch of $500 items then I think that might be a little tacky.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@bebero:  +1 Exactly.

@jen 42713:  I have a couple items on mine that are $250.  The vast majority of items are less than $100.  You’ve done nothing wrong, and it sounds like your FMIL just has a stick up her behind.  I’d ignore her comment.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

a registry is a wish list and nothing more. I put a range of items from $50 – over $1000.  People have bought gifts at every price point and no one has complained. I have even gotten less or more expensive versions of something I picked out.  

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee

I think as long as you have a good range then you are fine. Just monitor it and make sure to add some items if things get bought up. I cant tell you  how many times I have looked at a registry and everything is bought except the $300+++ items. I end up buying a bunch of small things to make one nice gift!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It also depends on your wedding and your guests. If you’re throwing a backyard BBQ in an area where most of your guests make minimum wage, registering for a bunch of expensive items isn’t very practical.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@bebero:  Tons of high priced items is just off-putting to me. One or two items, I understand a close family member might purchase that for the couple. But they don’t have 20+ close family members.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We have some $$$ items on our registry–memory foam mattress, new vacuum, steam cleaner for the carpets, TV–but if no one buys them, no one buys them. Oh well. We have lots of stuff under $50, but pretty much everything on our registry is practical stuff.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree that it depends on your guests. We’ve attended weddings with huge guest lists and many of them are rather well-to-do close family members or friends. As such, it would make a lot of sense to have $500+ items. Conversely, if you are having a very low-budget wedding and the normal gift amount in your circle is about $50/couple (for example), then I don’t necessarily see the purpose in registering for a lot of $500+ items since no one will be getting them unless several people band together. If you needed the completion discount, many retailers will offer you the completion discount on ALL items you buy within a certain time period post-wedding, not just what is on your registry.

All in all, I recommend you just register for things you need. There’s no point in only having little, inexpensive stuff that you don’t really need but feel obligated to include because they’re low in price. It’s really annoying having to haul ALL these things back to the store because you decided you really needed ONE big ticket item instead. (Trust me, I was there!)

I think it’s okay to have frivolous pricey items on there; it’s good for bridal showers, which in my area, typically include the frivolous items. We gift the practical items or cash for the wedding itself. I’ve purchased the ridiculously overpriced $70 fancy picture frame as a shower gift before. I’ve seen a lot of registry with the pricey toasting flutes and whatnot. Just something to keep in mind is that some guests like gifting something you will keep forever, so they’ll gift the flutes over $170 worth of towels since the flutes will likely last you longer than the towels.

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