Post # 1
this is just a rant.
Back story: I got married this past year and hub’s “friend” (his best man’s brother) and his fiance came to our wedding. We had an open bar, hired a bartender and purchased TONS of drinks and mixers (as well as made signature cocktails and spending hours making around 400 fancy jello shots) for our guests to enjoy. So this “friend”, let me call him The Dude and his fiance took no shame in our open bar. NO SHAME. Find out the next day that The Dude ended up taking home two trays of the leftover shots, along with a case of beer. The only reason I found out was because I asked DH what happened to the shots because I wanted some. LOL
Anyway, fast forward to now – we are invited as guests to their wedding and its cash bar. RAWRG! Not that DH and I would have taken advantage of The Dude’s open bar but come on!
Note – I don’t have problems with cash bars at weddings. But these people sure weren’t shy about the open bar and my wedding (or a few other weddings we’ve both been attendees to).
Post # 3
@aybecede: whoa. whaaaaaaat? they took your drinks TO GO!!? i have never heard of such a thing!! some people!!!!!!!!
Post # 4
@aybecede: So they’re cheap but like the drink, not much can be done about that.
Not exactly the type I would like to be long term friends with, unfortunately you can’t change people..
But you can rant about them 🙂
Post # 5
Ouch, that sucks! I’d ask for them to provide you with a case of beer and 2 trays of shots at their reception lol.
Post # 6
@wrkbrk: Yep. To go!!!!
@something_orange: Thankfully neither myself of husband are really friends with them. The only reason we are invited/they were invited to ours is because husband pretty much grew up with their family since his best friend is The Dude’s brother. Ugh!
Post # 7
@aybecede: I might just be mean, but I’d find a way to make it known that I knew they took my drinks home, regardless of whether or not I paid for drinks at their wedding. That is seriously RUDE unless someone offered it to them.
Post # 8
I cannot stand people who act as if their consumption is at no cost to you… even worse when they just bring food/drinks home with them. It is just very selfish and classless in my book and I would only tolerate it if I knew they were on hard times and needed to grab what they could.
I’ve been to a lot of events where guests just assume that the food/drinks/decor is free for all guests to bring with them. I was once at a funeral where an older woman had empty containers in her car so she could bring the food home – she wasn’t related to them nor did she ask to do this. The family actually had to argue with her because they needed to bring all leftover food home to feed all the people staying at their house.
I would’ve been a lot more forward with them – I would’ve made a point to mention to them that I had to pay for what they brought home and because of them I couldn’t fully enjoy what I paid for.
Post # 9
@AirLaw: It was a while back now. But yeah it sure was a surprise. Maybe I’ll take a “to go” box of cake or something from their wedding.
I kid, I kid.
Post # 10
@aybecede: I’m sorry but that is just plain rude!! If my FI and I have alcohol left over at the end of the night of our wedding isn’t it up to US if anyone gets to take anything home? For goodness sake its not a free for all! I plan on offering our guests to take the flowers home at the END of the night but the extra vino etc will be up to us to give to whoever WE want to. Not for everyone just to take what they want.
@kes18: +100!!! You should totally ask for a tray of shots hahahah
Post # 11
@aybecede: You should put the value of the shot tray & case of beer on your RSVP to their wedding! “Mr & Mrs. aybecede will be in attendance… We can’t wait to get $___ worth of our free drinks!”
Not really, but it would get the point across!
Post # 12
@BeckyS0: Haha. Or “are you guys gonna have trays of shots?” Some people, honestly.
Post # 13
You’ve already pre-gifted them their wedding gift – they’re lucky to be able to start their lives together with the booze from your wedding 😉
Post # 14
I was just thinking the same thing! Your gift to them is totally taken care of…
Post # 15
I wouldn’t go to the wedding at all, personally. History or no history.
Post # 16
Send a card and say that you hoped they enjoyed their gift after your wedding – trays of shots!