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    Mrs. Moonbaby    Nov. 8th, 2009   Houston, TX

    Our rehearsal dinner is at the end of the month. We're not having bridesmaids or groomsmen so the only people at the dinner will be both our parents, the flowergirl(FI'S niece) and her parents, the ring bearer(FI's nephew) and his parents. That pretty much means most of his family will be there. I have three sisters and a brother that I'd like to have join us as well. (with spouses and children it'd add about 15 more people to the dinner) Since they're not really part of the bridal party is this ok? Though we don't really have a party to begin with. Besides, my parents don't speak any English and I think they'd feel completely awkward since everyone else there doesn't speak Spanish. (besides me of course! :P

    The FI's parents are paying for the dinner so I don't know if they should pay for my sibs too or maybe i can invite them and have them pay for themselves? IDK.. rules? opinions? thoughts?

     
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    Well I don't think it would be proper to invite them and ask for them to pay for themselves.  If your FILs don't want to pay for the extra guests, and you still want to invite them, I think you should pay their way.

    But honestly, I don't think it's unreasonable to invite your siblings to the RD, even if they aren't exactly in the wedding.  Also, is there something that your siblings can d with regards to the wedding, that might warrant them being at the rehearsal?  Ushering? Handing out programs?  Making sure you walk down the aisle at the right time?

     
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    Mrs. Moonbaby    Nov. 8th, 2009   Houston, TX

    My sisters are taking care of the food. My brother was supposed to help me with the dress, but he was laid off recently and wasn't able to after all. Maybe I'll talk him into ushering people..

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I think it's fine to invite them. Immediate family is pretty much always invited to a rehearsal dinner.

     
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    Immediate family are always included in rehearsal dinners.  I'd invited them, but I wouldn't ask them to pay.  

     
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    Noelle-a-Belle    October 16 2009   Southern CA

    You should def invite them, and they should not pay for it.  Immediate family is customarily invited to the RD. 

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i definetly think it's ok to invite your immediate family to the rehearsal dinner. 

     
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    smy    September 18, 2010   Brooklyn, NY/ wedding in HHI, SC

    I think it's fine to have immediate family! I've been to a lot of rehearsal dinners that even go way beyond, and invite everyone from out of town, my future brother-in-law's was something like 96 people! 

     

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