Post # 1
We’re basically looking to keep the rehearsal dinner at a conservative number of guests as my husband-to-be’s family is unable to contribute much to the wedding monetarily and also want to keep a lot of what’s happening as a surprise.
I do want to send out paper invitations, but is there a wording that would specify they’re invited/needed at the rehearsal and then can join for the rehearsal dinner? The sites are a little less than an hour apart so I don’t want to make everyone do the drive if they don’t have to (i.e. not in the bridal party, etc).
Also, I’m having a sextet (6 voices) perform during the ceremony – they are also wedding guests – but not entirely sure if they should also attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. While I’m sure they’d appreciate to practice during the run through, it’s not all that important to me; my pastor will announce they’ll be singing, they’ll go up and do it. Not worried, haha. But I do want to take them into consideration; the rehearsal would be at 4 PM on a Thursday and I don’t want anyone to have to take off of work unless they absolutely needed to be there.
Post # 3
1. I didn’t send out paper invites for mine. We emailed the information to people in the wedding party and our families have been told where to be. We also created a facebook event for people who are on facebook. That said, the whole thing was easy because everyone we know who is attending is either close family or close friends.
2. I don’t think you have to invite the sextet…they probably won’t even want to come out to sing if they don’t have to. Weddings aren’t so complicated that they can’t figure out what to do. If they do attend the rehearsal, you have to have them at the dinner. If money is an issue, definitely don’t include them in either part.
Post # 4
@lilacdust: Hmmm… not sure about wording for you. However, I have participated in multiple weddings as a reader and did not attend the rehearsal for any of them. For what it’s worth, I was not invited to the rehearsal dinner, either (when I was a reader).
It was very clear from the program when I should go up to read, and the practice wasn’t necessary. I think you’re on the right train of thought with the sextet- probably not necessary to bring them to the rehearsal or the dinner!
Post # 5
I would inivite the singers.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If there’s an issue with people getting off work, you don’t have to have the rehearsal at the ceremony venue, I know several people who have held it at the RD site. We didn’t even have a rehearsal- my minister met with the guys for about 5 minutes before the ceremony- it’s pretty straight forward what people have to do.
I think your sextet can skip the RD.
Post # 7
Not doing paper invites for the rehearsal or the dinner. I will tell people. I am actually thinking of giving the wedding party a paper filled with pre-wedding events the week of the wedding so they can have that info (many birds with 1 stone and saving paper).
I would ask the sextet if they felt they needed or wanted to come to the rehearsal. Let it be up to them.