Post # 1
I know that it is “traditional” for the groom’s parents to cover the rehearsal dinner and the bride’s parents to cover the wedding, but I think, in our case, we’re anything but traditional. When it comes to the wedding day, we’ll be paying for most of it ourselves, with some money generously donated by my family. At this point, we have no idea if FI’s family will be able to contribute to anything, including the rehearsal dinner. And we certainly don’t want to pressure them or make them feel bad no matter what they decide they can/cannot do.
So I guess my question is, did anyone else end up paying for their rehearsal dinner themselves? It seems so daunting while we’re busy saving for the wedding itself, but I want to be prepared in case FMIL/FFIL cannot afford to help us out. If you did, how did you plan for it? What kind of event did you do? We’re still early in the planning, so there’s plenty of time for us to work this out, but it has just been on my mind.
Post # 3
Well, we paid for our own wedding and expected to pay for our Rehearsal Dinner, too, but it turns out my MIL really wanted to contribute! She gave us a low budget and we stuck to it. It was something she really did want to do, but we didn’t want her to feel like she had to by any means. I know a lot of people who did their own rehearsal dinners–one was a rented room at a HOliday Inn type hotel and they catered in pasta….and another one was at a park and food was catered in (stuff like Pasta House is pretty affordable!) and I made a few desserts (i was a bridesmaid) and they had chests full of soda. The park was like, $50 to rent a table area? It was only a few hundred bucks but it was casual and way fun.
Post # 4
At this point it will be a group effort on my families behalf only because my FI’s family is flying in from Sweden and is paying to be in a hotel for three weeks.
Post # 5
We put the deposit down on a really large and awesome park shelter for the day (less than $200) and FI’s family is throwing us a BBQ.
Post # 6
We’re currently planning on paying for the rehearsal dinner ourselves, but would be awesome if someone offered to help contribute!!
Post # 7
We had been planning on paying for the rehearsal dinner ourselves (with my parents bringing wine), but at the last minute, my husband’s parents stepped in and offered to pay. It was a nice relief, but we weren’t expecting it!
Post # 8
We’re paying for everything at-all related to the wedding Friday – Sunday. We decided that’s how we wanted it to be from the very beginning, and came up with our budget keeping that in mind. We’re doing a somewhat casual country-chic rehearsal BBQ on Friday and lowkey day-after brunch Sunday all at the farm we have rented out for the entire wedding weekend. I feel like knowing this was how we wanted to handle it made it easier to plan for.
Post # 9
We were full expecting to pay for our rehearsal dinner, but my husband’s parents decided they wanted to pay for it. We were so grateful. It was about $700 including tax and tip for about 14 guests.