Post # 1
My wedding is less than three months away and I finally got around to planning the rehearsal dinner. My fiance and I have agreed on the restaurant where we would have dinner with our bridal party after the rehearsal. My question is, how do I limit the entrees that my party can choose from? We are on a tight budget and I’m worried someone in my party would choose a really expensive entree. I’d appreciate any advice.
Post # 3
Every rehearsal dinner at a restaurant that I’ve been to had a special menu for us to choose from (printed up just for us). Depending on how large your event will be, I suspect the restaurant will be happy to do this. Are you having the dinner in a separate room/section? That will likely make facilitating this much easier. Also, at one of them the waiters came by with wine, but I think that we had to buy hard drinks on our own (I can’t recall b/c I don’t drink much liquor). I would guess that most restaurants are very used to this scenario and will be happy to accomodate you. My only suggestion is, especially as it’s the rehearsal and will be limited to family and close friends, definitely make sure the menu includes options for people with dietary restrictions. I was a BM once and attended a dinner where even the bread had bits of meat in it. I’d never eaten red meat in the 12 years I’d known the bride (incl. the 2 we lived in the same house) , but somehow this did not factor into the menu choices. It bothered me as I was a student who had to save for several months to be in her wedding and fly across country, but she did not extend such a simple courtesy for me. My point is simply to make sure that in limiting your menu you are still taking care of your guests. This does not require you to pay for lobster dinners for everyone, but just to be sensitive to the fact that they probably went to a lot of effort to be part of your day.
Post # 4
If you have a large-ish party, some restaurants will let you have a separate menu that doesn’t include all the entrees; that way you know that everyone’s dish will be approximately the same. Alternatively, they might do a simple prix fixe for you, where everyone chooses soup/salad, 1 out of 3 entree options, and 1 out of 3 dessert options. Only the options you want are listed on the menu provided to the guests.
If you call and speak to the banquet captain or event coordinator, they should be able to set you up pretty easily– hope this helps!
Post # 5
I suppose you could always ask them to do a buffet or something. I am a more simple kind of person and realize things are expensive enough so I am going with pizza, wings, and beer at my mom’s house. This way any out of town guest and the families of my attendants will also be invited to come over. I’m sure all you have to do is give them a call and ask what they can do to help you out, they will cause they won’t want to loose the business! Good luck!
Post # 6
We picked one menu item ahead of time for all of our guests so there was no menu. The only other option was vegetarian, and we ordered those ahead of time as well.
Post # 7
Thanks a lot ladies. I will call the restaurant and ask. We’re inviting only 25 people for the rehearsal dinner. We’re having buffet in our wedding reception so we’re not doing buffett the night before. I feel so much better now. Thanks again for the tips.